I've noticed, in what I think is a weak substitute for porn, that I've been Facebook stalking way more lately. I actually feel more embarrassed to admit this than to admit the porn addiction. But lately I've just been scrolling through tons of my female friends' pictures searching for the bikini pic - BAM - jackpot. I get a mild-mild rush thinking about checking someone's pictures out, but I wonder if it's harmful for this reboot. I'd hate to starve my brain of another thing... Anyone else?
I've done this type of thing during previous attempts. I would go to art sites and look for sexy drawings and such. I'd feel like it was okay because I wan't looking at "porn". But that's totally what my brain thought it was and that's the issue. Our brains are still getting that dopamine spike even from bikini photos and drawings. I'd say it is pretty much the same as looking at porn for me. I'd end up failing shortly after doing that type of thing. I've resolved to avoid anything sexual during my reboot because I know that I'll end up screwing it up if I let my dopamine addicted brain make decisions for me. My recommendation...avoid it. It's just not worth it. Stay strong!
You are correct, substitutes are lies and this isn't healthy for the reboot. Just needed to hear it. I'll start weaning off it...
You'll see that it's the little things like those substitutions that end up being bigger threats. You can block porn sites or just resolve never to go on them, but when you're on Facebook or just thinking about girls you've seen, then it's like porn all over again. Just avoid those pictures as if they were real porn, even if it means not going on Facebook for a few days to get your mind off it. Stay Strong!
Agreed with this. I got porn sites blocked but once relapsed at YouTube, so it doesn't matter where, what matters is self-control. Good luck.
Holy crap. You have made me realize then YES, I am on Facebook more often, and I've also been looking at online dating sites. Crap. Well, this is better than masturbating to porn, right?
I deleted my facebook because of that reason but also because for me facebook was a wast of time and I realized that i needed to concentrate more on whats happening in my life(stalking)!
Yeah I can relate. I am on day 8 of reboot and told my GF a few days ago about my problem. I am avoiding P at all costs but can find myself staring at "The one who got away" on fb or various pics of her on my computer. It gets wayyyyy worse after having sex (with gf) during my reboot. I was doing fine up until 6 days ago and then I had sex to apologize/convince my gf that I was still into her. The next morning BOOM wanted to seek out pics of this long lost flame. Lots of evidence to support what my brain is doing on YBOP and that I have to rid all PM and Os from my life.