Hello. I've lost one hundred and fifteen pounds this year and my libido is on hyperdrive. I've been married for eighteen years and have looked at porn and masturbated for most of it. More wanking than porn though. My wife went across the country for Thanksgiving and while she was gone I went apeshit PMO'ing. So much so that my penis was swollen and hurting. When she got back we had alot of sex. For a couple of days I was obsessed with having crazy sex. During that little period I found that I would go flacid and couldnt come and it freaked me out. I did some research and found the Nofap community, discovered PIED and Death Grip. I stopped masturbating and within a couple of days I could come with my wife again, I felt so relieved. I've mellowed out with the crazy sex though and now we just make love like we used to again, slow and sensual. For the past twelve days I havent masturbated or looked at porn. Only sex with my wife every night. All she has to do is climb into bed naked with me and thats all it takes to get me started. The thing is I want to try the whole semen retention thing and I want my wife to be satisfied too. I bought the book Cupid's Poison Arrow and am about to crack into it. Does anybody here practice Karezza? If so can you please tell me your experiences with it. Thanks and I'm sorry if I was too graphic about anything.
I’ve been fascinated with Karezza since I learned about it years ago. I found that you need to be very disciplined, though. Getting to the point where you need to back off, it’s really tough telling yourself no. It was something we would do every once in awhile, but never stuck with it. I did a 90 day reboot and was trying Karezza during the last days of it. I found that I was still dealing with sensitivity issues and had trouble holding off from O. So it went by the wayside once again. I will say that during the times that we did practice Karezza successfully during the reboot, I loved the results. No chaser effect, no loss of energy, and an all-around positive attitude. It is my current goal to make Karezza a more permanent thing going forward.
But you are forming and reinforcing neural connections to intimacy with a real partner. We did karezza a lot at the beginning. It was very bonding and at times highly spiritual. My husband loved it. He was shocked.
Wow, congrats on losing 115 pounds! That's awesome! And very cool you are curious about karezza. I loved Cupid's Poisoned Arrow. It really connected with me. From my understanding, proper karezza isn't close to edging. You're not supposed to get close to orgasm. On a scale of 1-10 (10 being orgasm): Edging is going 1-9-3-9-3-9 etc. and karezza is more about staying in 1-5 levels and not getting close to orgasm. Karezza is more about relaxing in gentler waters from my understanding. And often not even moving at all. Just relaxing. (from my theoretical understanding haha. I still need to find a partner! So take everything I'm saying with a grain of salt!!) Two quotes I found on this from searching on reddit re karezza and edging: "I'm not currently practicing, but from everything I've read, most would say no, if you're edging, you're getting too aroused." "If you're edging, you're not relaxing enough. The point is to feel desire and pleasure increase and decrease, but to stay completely relaxed so no tension builds up. Tension is orgasm, and edging is almost orgasm."
Yes, it is tough to keep yourself from getting to that point. The key is to never get to the edge. At least from my experience, it’s probably not best served early in a reboot if you have trouble staying away from the edge.
