Another relapse, I thought I was going to jail

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  1. GA93JDeereboy

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    Idk wth is the matter with me. Another try to meet an escort. She no show at a diner. Yea a dinner. I see cops walk in and think I was set up. Only for me to leave and no arrest. Man, idk but I feel I keep this up I will go to jail and that may be what it takes to get me clean. I need help. Been texting other escorts and haven't met up with any and gotta start work soon no sleep. Help
     
  2. GA93JDeereboy

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    I need help. I need to change. I would like to help others but then I'm not even helping myself. I dont want to be on thos forumn for 10 years and still be lost.
     
  3. Dan9876

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    Oh man. I don’t know how to help you. Wish I could. Why not consult professionals, like a therapist who know how to deal with such stuff?

    Honestly, I didn’t even know what “escort” was, until I looked it up a few moments ago. If you know it’s illegal, please don’t try to deal with it by yourself anymore. Do get help.

    Hope someone else here would be able to give you some helpful advice.

    Love. Prayers.
     
  4. Ryan Veitch

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    From personal experience, I can tell you that you are going to loathe yourself even if you do manage to hook up with an escort without the cops catching you. Don't do it. What you should do is lock up your computer, take a day off and sleep long and deep. You will feel better when you wake up and also have more mental strength to resist this.
     
  5. GA93JDeereboy

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    Did you struggle with this issue like me?
    How are you doing?
     
  6. Brother i feel your pain i hope you are at least a little bit better now. Where are you from? Escorts are illegal there? I guess thats a good thing right?!
    First of all, i would say, stop asap with pmo, Now! Delete all the escorts you have on your phone, clear your browser. Do a todo list ASAP! Follow it with discipline. Use your cellphone only for calls and texts that are important, work and family related. Stay away from your phone as much as you can. Use your computer only for the same goals, otherwise turn it off. Don't go to bed with your phone, go to bed only when you are tired and know you will sleep. During the day, KEEP YOUR MIND BUSY ALL THE TIME. In your to do list, put some awesome goals, eat healthy, exercise, read my brother reading is fundamental. Focus on your job, follow this with discipline in just 30 days you will be feeling much better I PROMISE YOU. Urges? Cold showers, push ups. Believe in yourself brother, you dont have to be like that for 10 years. You can change it in 30/100 days. But the truth is... you gotta do it yourself or nobody is gonna do that for you. We all here can give you advices but you will be the warrior to walk the path. Say NO MORE, IM A NEW MAN. And DO IT! NOW! Not tomorrow, N.O.W. Do it for you, for your family, for you future family, for you happiness. Peace friend.
     
  7. GA93JDeereboy

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    Thanks for writing that.
    I got to change. Here I am after looking at the same s*** again. Yes I am in the U.S.
    It wouldn't surprise me if my family had a clue to this.
    I may just have to seek a therapist after all. I just been work work work, and no time put to seeking out professional help. I really really want this to end. I like this forumn to be the fix. The. I can share my story on how I beat it like the other guys on here. Helping save others who have these problems.
     
  8. GA93JDeereboy

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    In young but I don't want to be old with it.
    I wonder if I had a girlfriend if it would help me? Although my work keeps me away alot of the time. I dont really take time off to meet anyone. I can change that. There def are no excuses. But it doesn't make it easier.
     
  9. GA93JDeereboy

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    When I first came to this forumn last July, I was doing awesome. I messed up after over 100 days and been down since. I did 20 days or a week or two etc but been messing up.
     
  10. GA93JDeereboy

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    I probably need someone to actually talk to in real life.
     
  11. You can do this. But do you think this is the right time to have a girl? Do you think that having a girl would solve all this problems? She won't cure your pain all of a sudden. Think like this... if you have a glass of too much problems, depression, addictions and doubts, who would like to drink that? Women can feel. First you should focus on fixing yourself. Behind a great woman there is a great man. Be the great man then a girl will appear in your life. The universe gives you what you are ready to receive. Stop Pmo now and work hard to become a good person, in the right time when you less expect a girl will come to your life. Thats how it works. But keep in mind, with this escort and pmo addiction that won't be happening and if it did, how long do you think its gonna last? Would you like a nice beautiful lovely girl to see you in that state? No more pmo for you my friend. You will be the great man you always were meant to be. Your future girl is waiting for that. Peace. :)
     
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    out of curiosity, which country are you from?
    Where I am from prostitution is very much legal and before I had a girlfriend I seriously considered using one instead of looking at porn.
     
  13. Ryan Veitch

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    I didn't really struggle with it per se. The escort business is legal where I am from. However it kind of hits you later. For me, it was once in a while thing as a release. I realized years later though that it skewed my perceptions about sex, treating it like an itch to be scratched. Pretty much like porn which is what makes both of them dangerous.
    Today, I wish I had spent more time cultivating real relationships with women who were genuinely interested in me because they were the best sexual encounters of my life, even the embarrassing ones. A combination of anxiety about my looks, religious mores and fear about getting into a relationship I did not want meant that I sought escorts as an escape. Problem is, escaping from life means you are no longer living it either.
     
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  14. SuperiorMan95

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    Dude this is not going to be over night help. Get into shape, start reading, upgrade your career, start dressing better, make your life more meaningful, and then you'll be an excellent option for a nice girl some day. This is your life man!!! Don't waste it. Check out 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson.
     
  15. GA93JDeereboy

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    I am American from USA.
    Well guys. I messed up again this morning. And i am now reading this. I almost messed up again but I stopped myself and wrote out a list of why I am not going to do it. I appreciate your advice. I got to step up my game and be a man. Start being one. Today as I was at Walmart getting things I thought about this. As I was doing my shopping and noticing all the other people doing their own business it made me think. This addiction will put me down if I let it and the world will keep on going about and I'll be unnoticed. So it is time I step it up.
    Bc how can I get to where I need to be in life if this keeps taking alot of my self esteem etc away? I won't get very far so I have to stop this. Instead of diving into the addiction I'll stop it right there. Keeping this list to heart of my dreams and values.
     
  16. Good to hear that friend, wish you all the best on your journey, if you focus and are determined to change, you will. Work hard and get back the life you deserve.
     
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  17. GA93JDeereboy

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    If you were to look at my past posts, this has been going on for awhile. I mean i had the same thing happen b4 Christmas. I thought I was about to get arrested at a bar. It's got to stop. Has to. It has altered a relationship I had with a lady I knew. I told her about me seeing prostitutes. And I am sure that made her view me differently. Although we don't talk anymore but anyhow this has all just been bad. Last lady I saw, I met at her house, she did a body massage and you know what. But it's not right. I got to find me someone, get ahead with my business, to give to help people.
     

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