Annoyed by people

Yeah, the irritability and annoyance and rawness are definitely a part of the recovery. Sucks for us brother! Will use that sweet sweet pornography for so long to help us deal with our negative emotions and social anxiety, and then we expect to just pop in to real life sand be okay? It's going to take some practice and some time but eventually you will find an equilibrium, find the people you like and the places you like and be less irritated. It just takes time and effort

 

Thinking about it will only make it worse. Its like getting annoyed about getting annoyed, it feeds on itself in a loop. Good advice that i heard before is to accept negative emotions and try to live with them instead of fighting them. Realizing and acknowledging that they are there but not reacting to them.

 

This is one of the basis of meditation. I've experienced meditation some time ago, not for dealing with porn addiction actually. It really works but you need to work on it. It's not as if you could just decide to live your emotions instead of suffering it. Try to start with a 20 minutes per day just focusing on your breath and watching your thoughts/emotions. Think about it as if you were a cow looking to trains. You just watch and become aware of those thoughts, you don't try to overcome them, they'll pass.

Maybe you should consider reading stuff about meditation. I cannot recommend you a good english book (I read Mathieu Ricard's book, it's excellent but it's in french !) but I'm sure you can easily find (good) advices on the web. I do not say meditation is the only way to solve your misanthropy problem but I'm quite sure it's a way to overcome it so you should consider this option. By the way, there are a lot of others benefits too !

 

I second the meditation but would suggest only about 5 minutes to start, it's a lot longer then you think!

 

That's right that 20 minutes is challenging when you start but I honestly think 5 minutes isn't enough. I never did less than 10 since I need time to concentrate.

 

This is me every day. Avoid douchenozzles.

 

I felt also annoyed for a time (I got similar records like you in the past). But in my case I was sick of the society I live because everything was the same (lying each other, backbiting about everybody, betraying each other and later friending again like nothing happened etc.) and I realized that more then before. Maybe that is in your case too? Are you sick of your society?

 

Definitely yes. But not sick of people ! There are hypocrite people among politician (just an example...) but your friend are not (at least I hope so !). I think, during those moments when you feel sick of society, modern consumption world etc you should think about your friends, your wife, your parents, guys from this forum. We are all part of this society but it does not mean we support it.

 

The society we live is really awful relative to politicians acting. But also relative to people (which can be various to each country). In my country the most people are like I described it before. But in other countries I visited isn't that common.
Like a friend told me: We're going to have to act, if we want to live in a different world. We can reach it together if everybody joins it.

I made the same experience in the past (and the last time again). I had friends for years. I made suggestions what could we do in the next time - you know, something new! But they refused everytime and wanted to do the same thing again and again (what I don't like to do). The contact decreased because two of them didn't like me during the time. My answer to them was: Go sit on a tack, all of you! (I cleaned my friendlist before I deactivated my FB-account).
My classmates in the past didn't except me either. But unfortunately thats the nature of the society: if you are different as the collectivist society, they want to get rid of you.
I really hope, that your 3 friends are trustful to you and no betrayer.

 

Having 3 close friends is good. Actually it's pretty rare to have more than a few friends you can really talk to and be understood.