Am I on a leash?

So I started regularly messaging this girl that I've known for a while. 2 weeks ago I confessed my feelings to her, and we hung out a couple of days after and we kissed during that "date". My situation with her is very complicated because you see she's my best friends ex, and they only broke up like 3 months ago after being together for 2 years. In any case its been a really messed up 2 weeks. One day she'll tell me that we need some space so she can figure out her emotions then the next day she's back to messaging me and like "the hell with the space". Whenever I try to get too close she freaks out and tells me that I need to get it straight that she hasn't fell for me or shes not my girlfriend or what not. And why I try to push her away she freaks out and tells me she doesn't want to lose me. At this point I'm convinced that she doesn't actually like me and that she's just keeping me on a leash just in case. Maybe she likes the attention... I dunno. I know this doesn't have to do with my PMO struggle but if anyone could give advise that be great!

Thanks!

 

Thanks Hitto, I Kind of figured as much... so in about another 2 weeks I'm going to this convention that's part of my church, and she's going to be there as well. I'm kind of buying my time until then. After the convention I'm going to giver her the ultimatum to see if she's made up her mind... if not i'm just going to cut her off.

What's really messed up is that not too long ago while I was messaging her, she kept bringing up her ex randomly... it kind of annoyed me so I told her I had a client and that I was busy...