After failing multiple times.. this is my new approach

This time I am going with a different approach.
Previously each time I relapsed, I started with more aggeression, dedication and more strict plan that i am definitely going to beat my previous recoed.. and every time I failed.

I understood this time that being aggressive or by criticising myself, I am not going to reach where I want..

So this time I am taking is slow. Just slowly I am modifying my schedule and filling the time with activities...

I started with just nofap.. then I started a book in the mean time.. then after that I got a Rubik's cube and solving Sudoku..
And everyday I started waking up at 7:30am.. normally it was 9 and during my reboot mode I used to make it 6am..
Slowly cutting down my time from YouTube and movies..

Instead of going too hard on myself.. I am taking it slow.. and I see the benefits.. the urges are also not that much hard..

It's like the same thing.. if I tell you not to think of monkeys.. you'll just think of monkeys.. so this time I am not forcing anything on to me.. not taking it as like I have to control it.. come on.. I'll do it.. today it's 5 days.. yaaah.. NoFap.. amazing.. this way I'll just think of that .. the more I try to control the more the think of that..

So I stopped that harshness onto myself.. next month I'll join gym and going to take it slowly.. and
I think this is working for me..

nofap alone is not going to help and I have to get into some active things.. and I'll .

Don't get hard on yourself.. what happened with me is.. like one day I relapsed.. I used to watch porn the whole night and ejaculate 4-5 times.. and then think.. from tomorrow onwards.. I'll be on track again and restart..
From today onwards I'll not watch youtuYo even once.. I didn't for 10 days.. and then one day I watched and it's like .. ohh .. I hadn't watched for 10 days.. I can watch a bit more today.. that's keep on repeating..

This time didn't made strict rules.. this time I am just feeling .. just sitting ideally.. and when you sit ideal for 10 minutes.. you feel like I can do something useful.. I started a course on Coursera.. and that's how I am filling my time.. slowly..

 

Yes.. I'll be vigilant. I am going to take things slower Bec when I make rules .. I make them too hard.. just like sometimes we make commitment which can't be fulfilled in that time.. a goal should be like it's in your range but not in your reach.


Self satisfaction or being complacent will come into picture if one has no goals..

I am trying to pursue goal with a motivation not by a force or pressure.. both can lead to achieve goal but paths are different..