Advice on PIED

3-6 months

 

First off, you need to figure out - are you brainwashed by porn or have you simply desensitised your penis or both?

By brainwashed by porn I mean what we all know is true - porn has some pretty unrealistic scenarios and pretty unrealistic women so it's very easy for a person to get used to that level of stimulation. Which is much lower in real life sex. And that is where the conflict happens for people - they try to have sex and are amazed it feels different than when they're jerking off. But that's actually very obvious come to think of it. You have this idea in your head, based on porn, about how things happen and then have to realise that in real life there's a lot more to it - you have a living breathing person next to you which is so completely different than the introverted action of sitting alone in a room with your computer masturbating. And when your brain is wired to expect that, and it gets the real person, you suddenly don't know what to do. If that's the case, then yes I think a reboot for 1/2/3 months should help. But this only works if during that time you change your mentality and start thinking of how 'real sex' is and how that is what you ultimately want to experience. Playing only real scenarios in your head and reprogramming your brain to crave that instead of anything porn related.

If the first part doesn't ring a bell for you, then I guess it might be desensitisation. Worry not, because this is only a physical thing, meaning it's easier to fix compared to rewiring your brain and changing your mentality. Here, when I say desensitisation I mean the damage you cause to yourself from bad masturbatory habits. That is, masturbating in a way that's very different than the type of stimulation you get during sex. The solution here would be to completely change the way you masturbate - think of what happens and how it feels during sex and try to reapply that alone to the best of your abilities. At first it's going to feel so strange and non-erotic, you won't be able to get hard, let alone climax, but you should be persistent and keep on doing it. Eventually, because this is your only way of stimulation, you will rewire to like it and will begin embracing it. Therefore, since you try to keep it as close to what a girl is doing to you during sex as possible, when you actually have sex you'll get pretty much the same thing as what you're now used to and you should be able to perform.

 

Usually the reboot goes like this: first 2 weeks you feel good as you're still very motivated for what you are doing. Then weeks 2-6 are a flatline for most people. It's like sex and everything sexual stops existing. This is again a sign of progress and shouldn't be feared. After week 6 is when you begin to feel arousal again and renew sensitivity.

For a reboot plan, I would suggest:
- First month is full hard mode - no P, no M, no O.
- Second month is again no P and no M, but you should start trying to fool around with girls. During this month you probably still won't get erections, but it's very important to do this, as it retrains your neural bonds to enjoy kissing, hugging, closeness etc. If you don't do this, you won't be cured even if you go for 1 year hard mode, because you're essentially wiping out your bad habits/vision about sex. BUT, it's very important as you do that to also try to have sex, because that experience is what will replace your current bad neural pathways with new 'good' ones - ones that enjoy the stimulus of kissing, fooling around, generally having another person be intimate with you.
- Third month is again no P and no M, but you'll probably start to experience full-on erections here. You probably still won't be cured - there'll be times when you can't, or when you have PE or can't O at all. But that's not to worry - at least you'll be doing a lot better.

Afterwards you should be cured - to keep the results permanent, I would suggest you never do P again, and M - maybe, but very rarely and in the way I described in my previous post.