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Advice Needed

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by loop_invariant@, Jul 16, 2023.

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  1. Jul 16, 2023 #1
    loop_invariant@

    loop_invariant@ Fapstronaut

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    Hey!

    I'm checking in after a very long time. I have been suffering from addiction to porn for a long time and have been trying to quit but no matter what I do, I relapse. After relapsing its so hard to muster the motivation to start again and it feels like I lost all my progress. Whenever I relapse I think that I will never be able to free myself from this addiction and my whole life will be spent battling it and I won't be able to pursue the goals that I want. I know this whole mindset of that my progress will be lost is wrong. But somehow at the back of the mind this thought is still there. I'm scared of the thought that I might relapse in the future because its harder for me to motivate myself after relapsing. I want to live a different life but this addiction is getting in the way and I'm slowly losing the motivation to even try because based on past experience I have always relapsed at one point or another. Any sort of help/guidance would be appreciated.

    Peace
     
    loop_invariant@, Jul 16, 2023
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  2. Jul 16, 2023 #2
    Perfectionst

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    Hi!

    I used to see the addiction as almost impossible to overcome. Sometimes while relapsing, couldn't help but say to myself: "Wow, I like this too much". No matter how hard I tried, just kept relapsing attempt after attempt. So like you, I began to think that this would be with me all my life.

    Now, looking back and remembering the power that P had over me, I can only explain it as if the addicition was some kind of spell:

    Remember that movie with Jack Black, where by some kind of magic he saw a very overweight woman as if she was actually the slimmest?. It's something similar. Recently I have been about to relapse. Not because I needed it, but because I had starting to forget the faces of my favourite pornstars and wanted to remember them. An awful excuse, right? :) The thing is that when I started playing those scenes that were my favourite, it was weird. Like...

    "Really?. How could I spent all that time hooked on this stuff?". All that power, that incredible excitement had vanished. And it's not a lack of libido, as I'm having real sex regularly without any problem. Is just that the spell has been broken.

    In my opinion it's not just a matter of walking away from it. One has to do some inner work and recalibrate views of sex, oneself and life to more real, more natural ones.

    I hope this helps, good luck!
     
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