I saw this article indicating that adult children of alcoholics have higher chances of becoming sex addicts. I am the product of a inebriated mom and dad. So bitter it left me that I never wanted to have children and at 47 never will. Family was a place of hurt and pain and I wanted to be far from that and not be responsible for bringing someone into the world to suffer. Anyway, anyone else out there a product of an alcoholic home? Do you think this is related to your addiction problems?
I wouldn't say just only sex addict. Any kind of addiction has a higher chance to develope if you had a hard time growing up. You are right.
To answer both questions--yes. Sexuality was a way of getting love and affirmation that didn't feel safe for me to get as a kid. Collapsing love, sex, and worthiness was the result; if a woman gave me her body that meant she loved me and my self-worth was increased accordingly. So I was desperate to avoid being alone, and thus without worth. Because self-worthiness was an issue, I did't feel "worthy" to choose the women I slept with; I accepted the ones who came my way. Generally, those were other unhealthy people with sexual trauma. Hyper-sexual relationships with a lot of unhealthy drama was the usual result. Watching porn with increasing frequency was a natural progression from the hyper-sexuality of my world. Ultimately that lead me here. Now that I'm an adult and can see with some perspective, I see that being an ACA is the single biggest factor behind my addiction issues around sex and love.
I can really relate to this. I'm the product of a very abusive home as well and I don't ever want kids either...I don't even know what a healthy family would look like.
My dad was/is an alcoholic as well. I totally used MO to escape the hell he put me and my mom through for my entire childhood. It was the coping mechanism/escape/most reliable relationship I had for a long, long, long time.