Addicted to peeking.

Hey man, I'm in a recovery group for porn and one thing I find helpful is recognising that activities like peeking are in my middle circle. Middle circle behaviours i.e. checking out girls online/offline, eventually lead to my inner circle behaviours i.e. PMO. I think you need to rethink your actions. You say that looking is 'harmless' but if it's leading to relapse this is definitely not the case. I used to check out girls on insta and thought this was harmless but I know it does me no good and will lead to relapse. Having that clear standard in your head will make a difference. Also, when I come across these images by accident, I use the 3 second rule - I must look away in 3 seconds, no negotiation. Obviously the sooner the better, ideally I'd look away immediately but I think this will come with time. Hope this helps brother, good luck with your journey.

 

@Mateus long just gave you the answer, but if you need more tips, check out the suggestions linked in my signature. It really is a battle of the mind, and thought control is everything. When your mind seeks to approach as near as possible to the edge of the cliff, you need to be prepared to deny its attempts. Get away from the edge! And don't look back!

 

Your brain is trying to trick the part that's holding it back from getting that hit. I also try to do this, try to do something else, don't peek its just makes it more challenging. make a fasting day (fast from anything and everything just 1 day a week, it helps)

 

I struggle with peeking too. I can agree with everyone here, just don’t do it. It’s not easy though. Basically, peeking is giving in, in part, to an urge.

One piece of advice I’m trying to follow is “ride the wave”. As the urge comes up, learn to embrace the feeling without acting on it. Let the urge wash over you and really feel it, acknowledge it, and then let it wash away.

Here’s an article that covers it.

https://bayareacbtcenter.com/urge-surfing-riding-the-waves-of-emotions/

 

I also have struggled with peeking but in the past streaks the peaking always led to porn which led to a relapse. My advise is if you have the urge to peak then your body needs some relief or something to scatch that pleasure itch.

My advise: Go do something pleasurable when you feel the urge to peak or to look at something you shouldn't be looking at. Go for a nice walk, eat something yummyyyy, go drink a delicious cup of coffee. Just scratch that pleasure itch with something and I guarantee you that the urge to peak is gone or diminished. It has worked for me and I am fine ever since.

Good luck to you

 

I binge today after 5 months of streak.. however it’s not to bad…I did stop now I got blue balls where I didn’t allow myself to ejacualate.. I do feel I have some
Control after a long streak normally it would continue all day long till I pmo..

 

Good, now relax and do not go back because the chance is very very high that you will relapse.

 

Try to be with a group of people where you discuss healthy things.

 

I do the same thing. Essentially "death by 1000 cuts." Please remember that porn is an addiction and you are activating your addict's mind when you do this. The best solution I have found is to simply abstain and keep busy, but this doesn't always work. The second best thing to do is to avoid binges when you do relapse. In my opinion a relapse here and there isn't too bad, but binges are.