Hey fellow fapsters, I'm sure there's another thread on this, but I need a guide on what is good and bad stimuli for rebooting. Example: Porn: BAD (duh) Softcore photos: BAD Hot facebook pics: BAD Sexy music videos: BAD etc. BUT I'm going to the beach tomorrow, where there will be lots of hot women in small bikinis. Question is... looking at real women can't be bad during the reboot process? Advice? It's gonna be very difficult not to look. Cheers
Hi buddy! Here's a great link you should check out. It explains basically everything you need to know about acceptable / unacceptable stimuli. http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/what-stimuli-must-i-avoid-during-my-reboot-did-i-relapse My question to you would be : "What is your intention by going to the beach?" A) I'm going to the beach intentionnaly because I want to see hot girls. B) I want to have fun with my friends. C) I feel like watching hot girls is an alternative to porn. Those are real girls so it won't harm my brain if I fantasize in front of them. If you answered A or C, do not go to the beach, as you will activate harmful pathways in your brain. Actually... if your answer was something else than B, I suggest you don't go to the beach. But then again, it's a personal choice. I was invited to the beach, but I refused to go. Those place are full of shirtless hot guys, which is basically triggerland for me. I didn't feel like I was strong enough to deal with all those triggers during a reboot process. All the hot girls there are potential triggers to you. Will it make you PMO when you get home? If you feel strong enough, then I encourage you to go! If you're hesitant, stay home. Just be honest with yourself Good luck, Phyzik
Thanks for that, i'm gonna read through that link soon. My intention to go to the beach was just that ... to go to the beach. I need to spend time OUT of the apartment, and because it's summer, and there's a beach nearby..well...you get the idea. My original intention was not to look at hot girls. Yet, as I live in a city full of hotties, statistically speaking, there will be a few there tomorrow. I'm still gonna go. I just wanna be outside, read a bit, swim, chill out, get my mind off things. If there happens to be hotties around, so be it... but I'm strong enough not to go home and fap over that. For sure. I'm 7 days into no PMO and i've no intention of giving in. It's still confusing though. Real women equate real stimuli right? Like if I happen to start chatting to girls at the beach, and she's looking hot... getting a boner/dopamine response is completely fine then, for rewiring purposes?
I say it's fine. Even chat them up if you're feeling brave. You need to get used to the idea that real sex is the only kind you can ever have.
I think it is totally fine. There is nothing wrong with social interaction. We are sexual beings, and to avoid ANY sexual feelings during reboot is pretty much impossible. Go to the beach, have fun, but just don't fantasize about those women when you leave.