A true loner will not even care anymore

I think we all need human connection in some way or another. I hope you can find in person relationships rewarding in the future. Friendships come and go. I have old high school friends I was very close with that I haven't seen over a decade. Others that I haven't seen but have talked to a time or two on the phone. The really good friendships I had fascinate me because they pick right up where they left off and are effortless. I would highly recommend reaching out to some old friends just for fun.

 

So a lot of it is we get busy starting our own families, careers, etc. Raising kids just takes about all the time you can spare.

Yes social media is definitely affecting things. Just like PMO does, I see people stuck on their phones everywhere I go swiping social media apps instead of looking at the person right in front of them.

However there are opportunities to meet people and gain friendships, but we don't find that sitting in our homes fapping!

I do agree on the small community thing, I live in rural America, we wave at everyone neighbor or tourist, It drives me nuts going to a city and watching people not even acknowledge you as you pass each other on the sidewalk.

 

Solitude is a way of life for me at this point most of my friends have moved on with their lives and basically forgot about me, never really had the motivation to date in all honesty neither in middle school, high school or now. Probably screwed it up due to porn and other things that went on in my life.

Work is pretty much my outlet for socializing these days, never get to leave the house much because I don't have a license, not sure where I'd go anyway other than church events, except everyone seems to be interested in talking to each other, yet none of them seem to have the interest in talking to me.

It gets pretty lonely for me in all honesty but at the same time since I was in high school I've basically started accepting that since I am a man most of my feelings would be considered invalid anyway. It's never been easy for me to open up to people about my interests or even the stuff I like especially now since where I live people are generally left and want to politicize every fricking thing.

This morning I joked to myself about a "Republican" not because I believe that Regan-omics let alone, the prosperity gospel, but because anyone who at least still has has at least half their brain knows that the political plates shifted. the left-wing got increasingly regressive and took a sharp turn into nutcase territory. People like me who were either moderates or libertarians are deemed to be "The Right-Wing" as a result. [Anyone who gets mad at me for saying this is only proving my point.]

I just long for some way to expand my horizons even find love but I am unsure how to navigate around people who want to find any means of tearing me down. Especially since I don't seem to give the appearance or beliefs that reflect what is deemed pro-social.

 

This is where I'm at too, you're not alone. I guess all we can do is "work on ourselves" until we come across the right people. But yeah it's draining, And a lot of people are selfish, and take my generosity and kindness for weakness. I'll settle for being by myself

 

Yes I feel like a lot of work needs to be done on myself and I also need to feel like I genuinely love myself before starting something. Yeah I believe we listen to other people too much about relationships, perhaps it isn't terrible to be alone when you're working on yourself.