A Progressive Challenge-A different kind of challenge- all levels

3/8 game still on

 

just joined the forum...i tried many things but not able to stop on my own....my first task is for 3 days..and i dont know how ill do...i need tips to do ..when i feel the urge to watch porn and masturbate

 

Good morning fellas my day is day 93 my penis pointed the way to the coffee maker on the way to date 100 120 180 275 per the abstinence contract maybe 375? Is semen retention a reality I almost don't want to come anymore I certainly don't want porn nor do I want to masturbate I just want to shoot off like a rocket with an orgasm with my wife when God decides and she chooses we shall do that hardmode pmo married doing it together and very happy you find out things about your relationship when sex has been removed the natural human mind the man mind cuz overcome that by thinking that you have to reproduce everything you see the plethora of sex and the way the world revolves around it is amazing once you've been removed from it almost every decision a guy makes it's about what's going to how it's going to affect his dick? Just an observation

 

1/10

 

20/21

Nice. Keep it up.

Welcome. This forum is really really helpful. It’ll help you a lot, I’m sure of that. 3 days is a good start. Just read a lot on this website, there’s really helpful stuff on here. We’re here for you if you need any help!

 

Day 50/60..

 

Day 94 I need to ask some more always God will provide those days in many ways you onlychange when there's a strong wind in your Sail it's also a sure-fire way not to fail enroute to120 180 275 maybe 365 God chooses and she decides have a blessedday

 

2/10

 

21/21

3 weeks

Nice. A good start! Keep it up.

 

Day 51/60..

 

Thanks @TC10. It was tiggers + opportunity and reminds me that it's easy to slip back. It was just mo, once, but I then looked at p later in the day because-I-could-now but I turned it off because thankfully my mind was at least clear enough to know that isn't what I want for my life.

So 3 days away from it I feel good about getting my number of days back up. Things I need to think about.

1. How to deal with p-subs, this wasn't a problem for me but became one, because I wasn't technically looking at porn my brain thought it had found a loophole but it's like pushing a car towards a cliff, it might not topple over today but it all mounts up and eventually...

2. Fantasising when I can't sleep. I do this a lot less now since starting nofap but I fantasies because it takes me away from thinking about things which would otherwise worry me or keep me awake. I need to ask myself honestly about what is the need underneath the fantasy, is it being valued, being powerful, being wanted? I feel if I could work this out then there are other things I could think about, even fantasies about that might even be beneficial. Like winning a sporting event, achieving some creative task, etc. Something at least that would not be pushing the car towards the cliff.

3. The doubling the days (1,2,4,8,16,etc) idea worked well for me but I think any short term goal setting would (1,3,7,14,etc) if you're struggling set short goals...

4. But I should join the monthly challenges. I haven't done this yet but will, I think once I'd set my goal for 90 days it was too far for me to think about, or to take seriously enough, as if nofap was just something rolling along in the back of my life. It did become less prominent for me as my internal strength grew but I need to be really careful not to become overly complacent.

 

100/120

 

Day 95 on Day 94 I had a big boner while snuggling with the wife lasted for about a minute and then just kind of let it Fade it off they call that the boner loner effect. Have another brother this morning is show me the direction to the still delicious cup of coffee coffee I'm drinking.

 

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22/24

 

Day 52/60..

 

101/120

 

Day 4.

@Foxislander when will you have sex again? Do you have any concerns about moving from this stage of your reboot to that new stage of your relationship with your wife?

 

Yes I do, really concerned not quite ready unsure of how to proceed feels clumsy like it's new