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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
My respect for myself grows, along with my appreciation for beauty.
maybe that´s the problem, maybe you just want too hard to get back on nofap. and that extra pressure is pushing you down. allow yourself to PMO, allow yourself to fail on nofap, i mean it. don´t run away from it, face the fact. don´t try to be something different that you´re now. that´s your mind playing tricks. accept the fact fully: "i´m all messed up right now, i can´t go back to nofap. and that´s ok!!!".
so once you fully accept that you can´t go running to nofap as soon as possible, you´ll give time to yourself to heal. then, when there´s no pressure, when there´s relief of accepting yourself as you are, you can start nofap because you certaintly don´t want to stay like that
here´s a great video on letting yourself be as you are, drop the facade bro, it´s so heavy.
don´t try to stop thoughts. just allow them to be, don´t engage in them either, just let them come and go in your mind, they´re just thoughts, they´re not real anyway. you´re doing great bro, keep going
very good. Onwards brother
you still rewired a lot, congratulations bro. now try to learn with the fall, where you start to crumble, what are the triggers, the circunstances, everything. let´s go brother, you will make this, you will be free.
37, shitty day today, feeling very tired with lot´s of brain fog. i guess i´m still feeling the effects of the long exposure to softcore days ago. the withdrawal is all here . this comes to show once more:
viewing porn/softcore is almost as bad as masturbate to porn/softcore. stay away from it. to make a good, clean and fast reboot, just engage in totally different activities. it´s so simple and makes a world of difference. word of advise.
Day 2. Yesterday I had sex with GF (My challange is still 90 days without PM, but I had good conversation with my gf about it and she agreed to support me even with not having sex for a month o so.. I am really looking forward to it! We are probably not going to take abstinence from sex in next 2 weeks because of vacation.. but when there will be chance, Im going to try it!). Im feeling really glad and fresh that I came back to challange. I know, the bad days will come but now Im able to stand them better. With new knowledge from first challange I feel almost unbeatable. Thanks everyone for support! Wish you great day!
day 54/90 completed
Day 1 / 90.
Ya I think I am pushing myself too much. I need to take of the pressure. I will work on it now. Cheers man.
Day 21/90 and I can surely say that yesterday and today have been the most discouraging and depressing days I had in a very long time. Let's just say I feel disappointed about my sex life, which has affected my well-being all these years.
I am out, only no PM for me, not the hard mode.
Don't worry, try again, you can do it!!
But I do not want PMO. O with SO is totally fine for me. Thanks for the support!
I made one fatal mistake. I watched some nude scene and I couldn't resist my urge and I fapped. I learned that without any pornblock it is impossible so I have locked my browser and not going to unlock it unless I complete this challenge.
I know that it's really hard to find validation from something other than your sex life. Pretty much for my entire life, I used sex as a way to feel appreciated and valued. I would manipulate women's feelings, and I would hook up with women who had a self-image that was just as bad as mine. Whenever I didn't have sex when I was hoping for it, I would feel very alone.
After a while, I realized that my worth is not determined by sex. In fact, by making sex as valuable as I did, I was lowering my value as a human being. I realized that chasing sex was keeping me from my potential. They say that a genius is just someone who has found something that he is more passionate about than sex. When I took a vow of abstinence, my life began changing. I pursued my passions in learning psychology, and I was able to orient my life around meaning. I cleaned out the skeletons in my closet. Overall, I became a more competent and caring person because I wasn't worried about having sex with people.
There are better things out there than sex, man. And really, when you focus on it less, it will become better.
Thanks bro. I appreciate!