Hello guys. My first very own topic here as I need an advice. I have just gone 80 days without P & M and I have completely cured any signs of PIED (tested by having sex with my GF 4 times total during that 80 days period). However even before I started NoFap I never suffered severe PIED. The only symptom was that sometimes I could stop being hard in the middle of the intercourse. And of course, I used to have urges to watch porn. I am experiencing benefits like: -Better stamina in sports (I am working out almost every day now and I feel motivation for it) -Increased hair growth and overall quality of hair feels better also. -Better looking skin -Plenty of energy -Better sleep, I can wake up and just do stuff for a whole day -Improved chest, neck and shoulders musculature (in a very noticeable way) -And of course most important one, No PIED -I also feel greater need to care for my family and relatives (when PMOing I was completely passive on everything) I feel like I can certainly say that I don't have urges to watch hardcore porn of any type at the moment and if touch myself I can get myself hard just by looking at the wall. But there is one downside which I've noticed. I can't focus on anything! Let's say I am reading something, suddenly my mind wanders somewhere else. It's like I could go work physically on a construction site for a whole day easily, but I can't do anything that requires mental strength and focus like reading books, studying or writing an important paper. What I have noticed that each time (4 times in total during that period) I had sex with my GF, all these focus problems were gone for a few days. I am at University right now. Next few months are very crucial to me so the goal is to focus and get the job done, but I am so distracted for some unknown reason that I have started considering switching from No PM (Normal Mode) to just No P (Easy Mode) to be able to perform mentally better. Unfortunately, having more sex is not an option as I am away for university and there is no way I will see my GF for at least a month now. Let me know guys. Is switching modes sensible option? Or should keep fighting with myself?
I'd go with no PMO, but that's just me. One month without sex/orgasm is not a big deal. If you can mb in controlled manner without urge to use P, then I think we'd be OK. I personally can't. I've done 90 days (no sex/no PMO) three times and when I started mb again, things got out of hand twice. I have no confidence that story wouldn't repeat itself the third time.
I'd just advice you, to have strict rules, something like I won't mb more then twice a week and won't watch P while doing it. If you break any of them, you go back into PMO mode immediately . It's very dangerous to be drown in the vicious addiction cycle for a long time after relapse. I'm talking from my own mistakes.
That's the plan and my aim would be to cut it down even more so no more than once a week. And as you advice I if ever try porn I am going back into PMO mode immediately. Thank you for your support HoplessCase101, I will do my best to stay vigilant. I went too far at this point to go back to the point where I started.
I would do no pmo personally and I don’t see why you would behaving a hard time with focus. Do you eat a lot of sugar or something or do you just struggle with discipline. Have you tried caffeine?
I am not sure what you mean if tried caffeine. Well, I don't drink any excessive amounts of coffee, but sugar does happen with tea and sometimes with some meals that do require one. Not sure also if it is a matter of discipline as I have managed to do 80 days of NO PMO, receiving all the benefits with only struggle being focus as explained in the main post. And by lack of focus, i don't mean sexual thoughts, just lack of concentration.
That's an interesting statement. I always thought exactly opposite, more energy would mean less focus, shaky hands and more need to do some physical stuff.
It can be like that for some people. I find it just helps me get in the zone and concentrate whether it is in the gym or when studying.
