I'm 37 y/o and had ED *all* of my adult life. I wanted to share this story in the hope that it will help others and so people can see that this stuff really does work. I met my first GF when I was 18 and we weren't able to have intercourse for 3 - yes 3 - years. It's amazing things lasted, but they did. I just couldn't get it up to have sex with her. I was in love with her and really attracted to her but it wasn't enough. Eventually we managed to get things working, but it was never that successful, so for the rest of the relationship we just hardly ever had sex. Unbelievable when I think back. In the end we broke up and ever since then I've taken more Viagra and Cialis that I can remember - through being single and several relationships, always in secret. I hated taking it every single time. Even though it worked about 80% of the time, I could hardly feel anything through my dick, but it was my only option. I can probably count the number of times I'd had sex without medical assistance on one hand during that time. My libido was also destroyed. Evenutally I discovered nofap and YBOP and suddenly realised what had happened to me. I was 34 at that point and couldn't believe what I was reading. Porn and masturbation seemed so normal to me that I just didn't realise it would have caused these problems. I'd been bashing it out to hardcore porn all my life, since about 13 years old, escalating more and more over the years. I hit nofap hard for 90 days, and whilst I did see some improvement, it didn't really fix my problems. A few relationships later I was back on porn - I had managed to "forget" about nofap - amazing how your brain can convince you of these things! I was also back on the blue and yellow pills and depressed about what was happening. Now fast-forward to 3 months ago. For some reason I can't remember, I suddenly started thinking about nofap and ybop again. I got all the old material out and watched the videos again. I couldn't believe how stupid I'd been to let myself slip again. I decided to experiement again. I stopped all PMO, I started going to the gym x3 per week doing heavy lifting. I started running, and improved my diet. But most importantly I started doing Kegels. 3x per day, 10x20s reps, some long, some short, but I did them as powerfully as I could. I was dating a girl at the time and made my excuses to avoid sex. After about 3 weeks we tried again. My erection wasn't amazing, but it was a massive improvement and the sensation was incredible, and most importantly I didn't need medication. I kept at it, and now 3 months on I would say that for the first time in my life I am completely cured. The sex we've been having has been incredible. My erections are stronger than I've ever had in my life. The sensation is amazing, the level of control I have is amazing. Even when my mind hits me with doubts and anxiety about not getting hard (which would normally just kill my libido), my dick still just gets rock hard. I seriously can't believe how good it is. I feel horny all the time. So my prescription: nofap + kegels = no more ED, rockstar erections, and great libido. I've realisd I can edge a bit (without porn) but generally I avoid it because it makes the sensations during sex less intense. I'm sticking with the kegels - I think these have been so important, and I also like the fact that doing them makes me feel like I'm taking my dick to the gym Things are good, really good, and I just hope others can share these rewards like I have.
Hi Johnny, Thank you for sharing your story. It is very inspiring and convinced me to join the forum (i already have an account on RebootNation.org). Do you have any tips on doing Kegels. I have been doing Kegels for the past 2-3 weeks but i am not sure if im doing them correctly. I try to imagine myself stopping my urine because that is suppose to be the muscle you need to train. Is this correct? Any tips on this will be greatly appreciated! Thank you and good luck to your continued success! Heisenberg
Hi Heisenberg, glad its helped you on your journey. Kegels - I do a kind of "pulling-up" motion of all the muscles that go from around my bladder to around my anus. It feels as though I'm trying to contract and draw upwards all of the muscles in that area into my body as hard as I can. The muscles near my bladder when I pull them like this make my dick move up and inwards a bit, the ones around my anus makes it contract and pull inwards also. I can pull them up quite hard now and I can feel the all of the muscles in that area working together when I contract them. Some other pointers: I treat it like any other muscle you would exercise at the gym - work it as hard as you can and vary the technique for maximum results I do 2 or 3 sets per day - In the morning I do 10 x 20 reps of 1 second each (with a 5 second rest after each 20) = approx 5 mins in total. Evening I do 10 x 1 reps of 20s each, 5 second rest after each one (again approx 5 mins). Afternoon I do somewhere in between the two. To make it easier to remember I do the morning and evening ones whilst in bed - just before I get up and before I go to sleep Also I vary how I'm lying - sometimes on my back with my knees bent, sometimes sat up - it seems to work different muscles Some other general tips If I ever slipped up and fapped or watched porn, I tried not to be hard on myself- just like "ok i fucked up, get back on it". I see it that it's important to do it 98% of the time, but if you mess up it's not the end of the world and the results will still be good I started to see fapping and porn as "poor man's sex". I didn't want to settle for a sex life like that. Don't worry if you don't get results too quickly. See it as a long-term investment in your sexual health and potency. Just stick at it and the results start to build more and more over time, until one day you're like "holy shit, I've come a long way and it was well worth the effort". Hope that helps!
While starting kegel put one of hand near your butthole.. If the butthole contracts you got the muscle right.. Later you dont need to do that.. Goodluck mate..
Wow. I'm only 19 and I've struggled with ED since I became sexually active a couple years ago... It's been insanely frustrating! I can't even imagine how frustrating this experience must have been for you and I'm so glad everything is working for you now. Thanks for the inspiration!
Johnny wishbone, this is hugely inspiring. I'm on the same journey and have always struggled with ED and only getting like 60-70%% hard. It's nice to know that someone in my boats gotten through!
Amazing. Im 17 and I also struggle with ED. Im in for 7 days and im trying to avoid sex as long as i can while im on NoFap. Hopefully it works out for me as good as it has worked for you. Thanks for sharing this it really opened my eyes on the changes i can make in my life.
Thank you for sharing. I have the exact same problem and I'm 23 ... I hope I can cure myself to with this
I've heard about kegels before, I was skeptical and not too motivated towards them till reading this post. Thank you! I'm doing em' right now as I type. lol
Well done Jonny - i can definitely relate to your issues and hope to overcome the 'lack of sensation' myself! Congrats on achieving a very difficult thing
Inspiration for us all. Im going to start doing keval exercises myself I would imagine they could greatly benefit anyone who has experienced ED for sometime as they havent used their member that much
Hi, I just checked back on this thread - thanks for all the messages, I'm blown away. I wanted to post an update - things are still great, I haven't had a single issue with ED still, even after being out drinking which used to be an absolute killer for me. Haven't touched medication either. I was having a tough time about some stuff a few weeks ago and I actually relapsed with porn - it was a bit of a wake-up call as to how easily it is to "justify" it to myself and made me really see just how I got back into it a few years ago. Thankfully now I'm aware of the tricks my mind plays on me about this stuff and haven't done it since. Either way, it didn't affect me which is good. Happy to answer PM's if anybody is having any specific problems, more than happy to help...
How do you perform kegels? I think i do it wrong my rectum and stomach get tensed tooo... Are you supposed to feel something in your penis when doing it? I did some with erection last night and ended up fapping