-- I have read the rules and would like to join this group -- Hi all, Do we still have space in the group or did we reach the limit? Is it possible to join? I just relapsed so want to make myself accountable to others.
Checking in. Have Had a very stressful last few days. Only had 3 incidents of MO in the past 52 days but just had two over a Twelve hour period (last night and this morning) I’m still avoiding porn but could really use some words of encouragement.
Hold on in there mate - 3 in 52 is good. If I can get there I’ll consider it a good start. We pick it back up now. Counting the days is going to be easy at least
Thanks for chiming in. Greatly appreciate it. I’ve cut it way back and haven’t gone back to porn but I still feel so vulnerable some days.
For the first time in my life I'm actually sad to see a year end, and for the first time in my life I'm actually excited to see a year begin. For me 2020 is going to be one hell of an interesting year: a year of many firsts, and surely a year containing uncertainties, struggles, and triumphs. I welcome them all. Thank You all for your inspiration and support. Happy New Year!
Thank you for your candor and resilience. I respect you for it. Don't give up. We get knocked down but we can always get back up again.
@Arnuld I wish I knew the words to encourage you. I thought about what I could say, but my mind keeps going back to the post below. It is a very long post, but I find it to be insightfuI, and I hope you that you will feel encouraged by it, my friend.
that is the nature of all pleasures bro - seeking pleasures only results in more desire for pleasure. Also pleasure and pain are the backs of the same coin. In buddhist terms they call it sukka and dukka - sukka that which is sweet, Dukka is torment and suffering. So because we are ignorant we seek pleasure not knowing it is the pain itself that is colored with pleasure, like poisoned honey. Without meditation, modified diet, and diligent continuous effort the only other way I know of is the faith-based approaches or the 12 step work, but if your doing it using non-faith based approach serious self control and discipline is needed. I feel a combination of both is even better which is what I try to use. The good news is your still here and sharing your honest experience and it takes courage to admit a slip. And no effort goes to waste.
I have read the rules and would like to join this group. If the group is full then please put me on the wait list.
I know bro - trust me- I have done the same thing for YEARS! Just there is a time that the pain of going back to it becomes unbearable and meditation is how I have been able to become more senstiive to my suffering
Yes. Yes. Yes. As much as I want to act out some days the pain and the fallout after the act has made it unbearable. And I just can’t take it anymore. @ANewFocus stick with the quitting process long enough and believe me you will hit this point.
How do we make it more real when we don’t have immediate harsh consequences? My wife doesn’t care about my habit. I do this for me because I know it’s wrong. The pain I feel is disappointment in myself but I’ve learned to live with that.
bro i would simply start meditating for 20 minutes per day once or twice, for 30 days - this will change many things in my experience Get the book zen mind beginners mind - get the app Insight Timer - google Alan watts arts of meditation - these 3 resources are great starters. keep every thing else the same, if you just do this you will be a different person in 30 days because as your consciousness becomes aware of your thoughts and feelings - you will become more self-aware and a whole new world will open up to you. But dont expect your mind to like the process - in fact you will hate it - it will not make sense to you until months or even years later
@The Real JokeErr welcome to the group! Now you are an official member , you can see your name in the ranking post #1 - We would like you to tell us something about yourself in your next post.
Hi @MickyW ! Welcome to the accountability group, now you are in the ranking (see post #1) - Can you to tell us something about yourself in your next post?
@Phoenixoutofit , @IveBetterThingsToDo & @Bobby2020 --> Thank you for writing and requesting to be part of the group! I estimate that in a few days (3 or 4) we will have vacancies and you will be incorporated. In the meantime I put you on the waiting list.
@AbeHiroshi @Juan Carlos Morales @armor @dsr81 We haven't heard from you for several days ... are you still with us? Have a great year!
