3 Questions, can you help? From a successful and fit dude to disaster (in my 20s)

I'm in my 20s, successful in my career and have (had) a masculine, lean body. No girlfriend though (care to guess why? yep, pixels).

But I got sick a year and half ago and that made the addiction to porn and masturbation even worse, a lot worse since the health stuff affected my work productivity, social life and weight lifting (lost 15 pound of muscle when I had to stop lifting - no energy, felt sick as shit). Before I think it was just preventing me from socializing, making more effort with women etc (even though I've started young, before puberty). Now I think it completely fucked my brain and only made the physical health issues worse.

Been trying to get rid of this for about a year, right now I finally figured out my why, my way etc. So I stopped watching porn for good almost two weeks ago, but going without masturbation for longer than a week seems like an issue.

My question is how to handle the situation when after 9-10 days of no masturbation you get really horny, by real life girl fantasy or by realizing your dick feels a lot fuller?

Second, on one hand I want to get this handled, but on the other I'd like to start going on dates, even though I may not feel my best I know it will get me to think about other stuff and all this positivity, socializing and dating may actually help me with my health issues and this annoying addiction, but I know it's not recommended to have sex while doing this, however at the same time I know that not having a girlfriend and not masturbating and continuing hard mode will only result in me not being able to hold it and not lasting long enough (anyone actually has experience with abstaining from sex, masturbation and then having sex after that long period of time? can you actually last??) and having a really weird time with her and I'm not even speaking about the fact that if I can't go out with a woman now that I actually feel attraction to them (and due to my job I'm around really hot girls) I'm going to jump from something really high. Any thoughts? As you can see I'm pretty conflicted about this and can't really figure out what the hell to do, but I have to in order to prevent falling for some escape from reality type of drug like M or PMO.

Third, anyone had issues with cold hands, hot face, redness on neck and face, sore through etc? Chronically, but worse when PMOing? While this was cause by something else, how do I know it's also not a result of a withdrawal? I would give anything to get my energy and healthy body back. Skin seems better though even after two weeks. Some other small stuff like dark circles still there, but that's irrelevant. Energy is below zero though, has been for the past two years...that just makes it even worse, I mean if it would be the addiction only, but no it has to be fucked up health and addiction to porn and M.

 

hey thanks for the support.

what's your recommendation regarding dating and sex? Like I said, on one hand I don't know if it's a good idea, on the other I don't wanna wait too long.