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25 year's of it, but no more.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by apan, Jan 13, 2024.

  1. Jan 13, 2024 #1
    apan

    apan New Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone :)

    When I started watching porn around 1997 you had a modem connecting to internet through the cable telephone. It was both frustrating and exciting to see content load on the screen very incrementally. It was all rather innocent at this time.
    Approaching mid twenties, I can't recall I ever questioned fapping or that you ever discussed it with anyone. I never came across any information stating anything negative about it. I was sexually active and it was fine in general. I then met my ex-wife and we were together for 11 years. Now, shame and disgust start to appear. I just gave in to the porn addiction without strength at all, so pathetic. I wish that I at least would have stopped here. In 2019, marriage comes to an end but PMO continues. If I only would have stopped here. It's now been more than 5 years without sex. I've been on the spiritual path, but only now clear enough in my mind to realise that I will not go anywhere unless I stop the porn addiction. The day hitting rock bottom, finally came three weeks ago. I realised, that if I continue, it will have big consequences. This is actually the first time that I write in any type of forum for help and support. But I suppose I'm gonna need it now and Im glad to be here now. My long term goal is to avoid PM for ever. I am now 3 three weeks in and doing alright. My short term goal is to avoid PMO for one month.
     
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  2. Jan 13, 2024 #2
    Robindale

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    Welcome. Realizing you have a problem and then taking an action step like coming here is helpful. None of us can do this alone. I hope you can work with a therapist to dig deep and really understand what is behind your PMO and why you go there as a solution for your pain. Best wishes.
     
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  3. Jan 14, 2024 #3
    apan

    apan New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks man!, appreciate it.
     
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  4. Jan 14, 2024 #4
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    I have to ask you one thing. Did you watch porn to either ease your sadness for your divorce or did you use porn as an alternative/compliment for sex?

    Using porn as an alternative/compliment for sex is a bad idea. Porn will do much more damage to your brain than if you would have had real sex instead. When you watch porn and watching video after video or photo after photo, your brain will get into a mating mode with the goal to get as many ejaculations as possible. Every new video/photo with a naked women you watch will your brain see as a potential sex partner to reproduce with. Our brain isn't clever enough to be able to distinguish between a nude women on a screen or in real life.

    If you would have had sex with your X for example your brain would have only focused on her because it's her it sees and it's the one you wanna see, and your brain would have liked to ejaculate with only her. While with porn it wants to ejaculate with multiple women, which will fuck up how it's programed. It will to much of the good stuff because a males brain loves to see erotic stuff.
     
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  5. Jan 20, 2024 #5
    apan

    apan New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the reply. I suppose most people here are aware about the things you inform about.
    Anyway, it was as an alternative to sex because i did not want to meet anyone new after breaking up.
     
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  6. Jan 20, 2024 #6
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    Maybe they are, maybe they ain't. I don't know that because I don't know them in real life. I'm not responding to stuff only to be annoying or tell them things they might already know. I'm just trying to be as helpful as possible during the time I'm in this community and I want to share my thoughts on how I see things. When I'm addiction free, I might not stick around here any more because then I have achieved my goal with NoFap. I don't think anyone wants be stuck here forever since we have all the same goal to be here.

    I get it, It's not easy to go from one women to another too fast because the sadness for your break up with your X might take some time to heal until you feel strong enough to get out and find a new one.
     
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