2 Months In- starting to get nervous

can you elaborate on what medication you take?

 

Give it time. You're not going to cure PIED in just 90 days.

 

ssri's destroy your sexual health, probably not from flatline. i took a lot of different antidepressants and ssri will delay ejaculation untill you almost cant come and especially if you're with a woman.it also weakens erection quality. but then again , you have to chose between the lesser evil. wish you good luck!

 

Hi, I'm personally not sure if the performance anxiety is cause by flat line or medication, it could even be a bit of both, in combo. Sorry! But...

Please don't worry about visual stimulation too much. Natural arousal can/will take time too, you're brain is essentially desensitized at the moment; it's been bombarded with hyper-sexuality for, I presume, quite some time. This can take time wear off; your body and brain is adjusting. Be patient with yourself, and try not to get too stressed. I know, I know 'it's easy for me' Hahha But stress only leads to one thing! And that thing is bad.

If we consider for a moment, everything the body and brain is having to process during a reboot and recovery, it may help us to appreciate what amazing work is being achieved.
Love your brain - it's listening and helping you, give it good food, good sleep, positive stimulus and time

P.s, if you're coming off anti-depressants - you'll need to develop a plan with your doctor/therapist. There can be complications if stopping this type of medication suddenly.

Wishing you all the best, S&L x

 

I had a lot of experience with performance anxiety until my early 30. For me it faded the same way how you conquer other anxieties.
The performance anxiety goes away by doing it and not being too hard on yourself. Little by little you build positive experiences that give you more confidence. You need an understanding woman for that and that's somewhat hard to find in my experience but they exist .

However i was never able to be a good lover while on antidepressants. But i was very suicidal at a moment in my life so it has helped me as a short term solution. Just to get some stability and rebuild my life somewhat. I am not encouraging you to go off them, that's something you should discuss with your doctor or physician. But if you go off them, do it slower than doctors recommend. Peter Breggin and professor Heather Ashton have some good advice on how to taper. I think therapists and doctors underestimate the sexual issues you get from antidepressants and the impact it has on the psyche and emotional well being. They underestimate the rebound effect that occurs not only with benzodiazepines but also with ssri's. I cant remember how long it took, it s more than 10 years ago i took them. But i remember the sexual shamefull experiences i had with some gorgeous women and being very frustrated about it and it had an negative impact on my self image.



Sexual induced problems(like low libido and not gettin turned on by gorgeous breasts ) from ssri are somewhat dose related but in my experience they are generally present to certain extent when you take antidepressants.

Doing kegel exercises, taking arginine or citrulline (do some research)for better quality erections will help you too. I would definitely steer away from vi*g ra, it will only be a crutch you have to rely on too much. Meditation has helped me a lot but maybe for others an intense sport can help them get more often in the zone. It really is getting out of your head, that is what good sex is about. We all have the innate ability to be good lovers but the chattering monkey mind and the anxiety that comes along with it disrupts the flow we need for good sex. Women will mind less the bad erections if you satisfy them orally first. good luck !!

 

SSRI's are notorious for sexual side effects. I forget which one it was, but one of them caused severe DE, such that it would take like an hour aggressive M to O, if I could at all, and at some point I think I lost the ability to O, and gave up M. It was only like a month after switching to another med that my sexual function started coming back.

Bupropion might work for you, which rarely has sexual side effects (it's an NDRI, but a DRI might make reboot harder, but I'm currently on it, and at over two months hard mode). You could ask your doctor to try a different medication. Do you even get morning wood? If not, you really need to switch meds, because the total lack of erections is bad for penile health, and can result in permanent damage.

 

You are where you want to be, brother. Just take it easy, give yourself some time to convalesce and heal. You are making great progress.

 

definitely dont think permanent damage , i took so much antidepressants and neuroleptics in the past and my erection is now rock solid. i would never take antidepressants for indefinite time but thats my opinion, i been in psychiatry hospital for years and im now fully functioning and decent job without any psychiatric drugs. but definitely take it easy , dont be too hard on yourself , sometimes they really help to get to a point where u can get control of the issues you are dealing with.

 

good luck, wish you the best on your journey. And I hope one day you will fulfill your dream to get a girlfriend.

 

I have just learned that vi@gra does not work with certain antidepressants.

As for the question of whether you can have sex soon, I have to say I think it is quite likely that you will have perfomance anxiety, especially if you are already nervous and in bed with a new partner. Vi@gra would help, but it probably does not work well with the antidepressants you are taking. Please discuss with the doctor! I hope you will be able to solve that problem and have sex.

Btw. you can have sex without erection. Just does not work very well with a new partner.