14 and quitting pmo

I know that must be hard cause I only remember how horny I was as a teen in puberty myself. So yeah, I can sympathize with how hard it must be...

But let me say this, I wish that I would know about nofap when I was 14 and that I would have the willpower to do it myself as a teen. Who knows how much better I could have been in school, socially and otherwise. So yeah I realize how hard it must be.

I'm not sure if you're aware of the brain changes that porn does in you, but I'd highly recommend that you watch the yourbrainonporn videos on youtube. The changes that are made in your brain when you watch a lot of porn is what we all are trying to reverse (reboot), and the thing is that people who watched a lot of porn at a young age, is going to have a harder time to reboot when you're older, because the brain is more plastic at a young age because you're learning(which means that everything you do will be harder to "unlearn" at a later age when you brain is less plastic) So from that point of view, you will be doing yourself a big favor if you just stay off from porn... even though I know how hard it is at your age.

Just educate yourself about what porn does to you, and learn it well. Then you'll be better equipped to make a decision.

yourbrainonporn.com

 

If i was you, i would concentrate on the porn, personally i feel masturbation is fine, as long as you keep away from the death grip and use plenty of lube.
Masturbation has been around for centuries without the effects that online porn causes.

Like @Magor says get yourself to yourbrainonporn

 

I completely disagree with @Booster. A comprehensive, proactive approach is best. Your brain is going to struggle to heal if you keep flooding it with dopamine from artificial stimulation. Please lay out what strategies you are using and what is triggering you. We can help you but you, but you need to specify your needs/difficulties.

 

The guys 14, hes gonna get a hardon looking at tiles on the wall. Porn is what has fucked us all up. keep the dopamine pathways linked to having normal sexual relationships with a woman and his brain wont need healed.

 

I am going from the effects of PIED, Masturbation on its own was never a problem, it was the influx of porn, specifically online porn, unlimited and every kink, fetish and unlimited styles in all its glory that created this mess.
Would it be easier to give up porn before masturbation. That really depends on the individual. If you are hardwired to do both together then i would say give up both together.

If you are still very new and you can still masturbate without porn and porn fantasy i say you should try giving up porn first and direct your thoughts onto normal sex with a woman.

I know many will disagree with this and i guess it depends on your opinions on the effects of masturbation without porn.

 

If you have to masturbate, then don't use porn. If you can avoid porn and only masturbate without it, it makes sense that you save yourself from a lot of trouble already.

If you're going to stop masturbating, or masturbate less often, I'd recommend trying to use your sex energy(aka hornyness) to try and talk to girls or better yourself in school etc. You may find yourself having more confidence when you haven't jerked it. I'd also recommend meditation.

I realize how hard it is at your age. I remember just getting a boner randomly all the time..

But most important, I would just try going without masturbation for a time, and see if it helps you in any area of life(school or socially)... just do it once then you know if there are any benefits, then you can decide to keep doing it. It's ultimately your decision, and you'll get more confidence if you make your own decisions in life, so that will also come in handy later for you.

 

The Lord Jesus Christ will deliver you from this if you want Him to. It's starts with full and total repentance, and asking Him to fully step into your life. I'm currently 16 years old and He has completely set me free from this for over 2 years now. He has changed my desires, and has drawn me closer to Him than I could have ever even imagined-- by the Holy Spirit. And He can and will do the same for you. Tell Him yes all the way, and you can message me at any time with any questions etc.

 

Blop 12, I read the various posts here and notice you are sounding more hopeful today. That is good to see. Like others, I can appreciate the difficulty of your situation. I noticed in watching a video of the founder, Mr. Rhodes, that he spoke of the purpose of the site as being ending porn addiction and *excessive* masturbation. Notice the difference in emphasis here. There is so much to be said about all of this and I don't know you, so cannot say too much. Watching pornography and engaging in M are obviously two separate activities, but these days are often related. I think the main question has to be What is the purpose? in each case. The concern with M is that the purpose often is not so good, that it is too self-centered. I do agree with those who remind us that M has been done for centuries. But every person is an individual, so what works for one may not work for another. That's why you should ask yourself what your purpose is in M. As for watching porn there seems to be more agreement that this activity has very little if anything in it that is good. If I understand the founder, the goal seems to be eliminating porn viewing, and limiting M. But I believe he would agree M is a personal matter. This is all a big subject and I only hope I have helped a little. Good luck in learning more about these subjects!

 

Hey Blop12,

I congratulate you on starting your journey to be PMO free so early. As others have said on this thread I wish the nofap resource had been available when I was a teen.

What's helped me to stop the viewing P is the coming to terms with the fact that the subjects in P are most often not treated well, drugged, etc. It turns my stomach now to think about it. It took me 20+ years to 'wake up' to this fact. I recently read some article by retired P stars talking about the industry, how they were treated, how they were coerced. Pretty much just another part of the sex trafficking industry. There's still draw, but remembering that helps keep me away.

Also, as others have said, M is natural. Not much you can do about dealing with hormones coursing through your veins. We all remember it. I do have to agree with trying to keep it down to a minimum. Get a hobby that gets you out of the house. Volunteer, whatever. Choose to spend more time not alone, even if it is as simple as reading in the library.

Good luck on your journey. When you look back, you'll find yourself glad you took this path, and thankful for the time you gained.

 

Yo man. Im 15. Im with you all the way! Keep pushing. I know where you're coming from. If you ever want to talk, I got you!

 

You are welcome. Wishing for you continued success.