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126 days ....not feeling that proud anymore

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Phillycheesebomb, Feb 14, 2019.

  1. Phillycheesebomb

    Phillycheesebomb Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys ive been 126 days and lately im just not feeling like ive made a big accomplishment. I wanted to stop fapping because I thought it would give me more confidence with women. People keep telling to put myself out there but its still hard for me and I really dont have any friends. I am shy and quitet. i get down on myself because i have no women interaction. Sometimes i get the vibe that my close friends and family think im gay cause i haven’t had a girlfriend, speak of girls or have girls around in years. I am on day 126 of NoFap and honestly at this point lately i dont feel much different from when i was fapping.
     
  2. bobross

    bobross Fapstronaut

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    Then start changing your attitude friend. People sense each other's 'vibe'. The more you tell yourself you can't talk to people, and the more you worry, the harder it'll get. PMO free doesn't mean the key to everything, it just means you don't have to play the game of life with a handicap. You've accomplished something amazing, you braved the mountain, but there are plenty still to climb, bigger or smaller.
    This may sound not very intuitive, but the harder you look for a girlfriend, the less likely you are to find a nice, healthy relationship. Find your validation within yourself, learn to be happy, do what you love and worry less about acceptance, that will come. And if you're happy and comfortable with yourself, then things truly change.
     
  3. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    Many times your own brain is trying to trick you to fap again. So it makes you feel bad and weird and low and so on. You must remind yourself of your accomplishments daily. Also, learn new things in your life to achieve new accomplishments. Many times depression doesn't help either. If you are depressed then try to be more expressing. Opposite of depression is an expression.
     
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  4. Agonist

    Agonist Fapstronaut

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    Quitting porn won't turn you into a Don Juan, but it will give you the ability to perform when the time comes. That's why concomitant lifestyle changes are mandatory when it comes to kicking this addiction. You can't just stop fapping and hope to transform into a superhuman by the end of it, you have to consciously work towards it and replace the time you spent looking at porn with time spent building yourself into a better version of yourself. Your goal every day should be to try and be at least .01% better than you were the day before. Over time, those improvements will add up and you will become more confident. Girls are important, but if you invest in yourself and derive confidence from your own accomplishments and sense of pride, it will give you a much deeper sense of well-being, which consequently will result in you feeling more positive and able to attract women.
     
  5. Nuo

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    Same here. But I am like what 23 days? I really wish I am at your place right with so many days of nofap.

    Edit:

    I switched to desktop site and it appears I am even lower than I thought - 17 days. But, you know ehat? Instead of feeling bad I will use this to my advantage to reach 23 days! And, then hopefully your record.
     
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  6. Nuo

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    Which translates as every step counts - you already made the first and when you're finished with it you can start exploring others.
     

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