12 years off my life gone

am also in a rut i have to get out of, have been pmoing for 10 years now, to the point where am scared i will never be able to stop, but i believe i can, i believe self-love is the key, i actually relapsed this morning, have learnt my lesson and identified what caused it and made adjustments, Nofap is not easy considering we both have been doing it for 10+ years, but am ready, am not giving up and i believe i can do this if i put in the right amount of effort and i believe you can too

 

Hi @SqushSuid and welcome to the NoFap Community. There is a quote by Maya Angelou which goes as follows: "I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better."
12 years have passed true. But I see you are 21. You have all your life ahead of you. And now that you know better, you will do better. Isn't that wonderful? Yes, shame is a big part that can hold a grip on us. The good thing is that shame cannot survive once we come out of the hiding and speak about it, share our story. And here is the perfect place to share and thus come out of hiding.

You have the rest of your life to do good and have purpose. And try not to care what other people think of you. Important is what you think of yourself. And how you want to spend the rest of your life. And who you want to be. And what healthy behaviors support you on your journey. Then you will feel empowered and strong. Other people then can profit from all of your experience and learnings and they will benefit from what you've got to share and give. Come to peace with what has been and now that you know better, you do better. Start fresh and remain curious what's to come.