100 days success story.

100 days, here they are... I started this challenge before the 1st of September. I was a pretty pathetic person, awkward, insecure, weak. I was bored of the fact, that I was never noticed by the ladies, I was also the second person in everybody's life, I was a huge tryhard to get attention and it made me more awkward, there was a problem to start conversations with the people, I was always thinking what they are thinking about me, do I make a good impression. I just write this and smile, because I am "almost" a different person, I can't recognize myself anymore. I thought to myself, that is it, I want to change myself, I was able to hold up to 40-day streaks on every streak, but that was the time when I relapsed usually, but that means, I got hang of this skill. You read those posts about suggestions on keeping a streak, yes they work, but not at all, they are universal, but as I always say, what is universal then it is no good, with every relapse you have to do a research and you have to be the research object, you have to observe in what kind of environment you were, that lead you to relapse, how you felt, what you were thinking about, what kills your urges, how cold showers would affect me, what happens if I go for a walk etc. Look what works for you! For me the solution is, that I am always busy with university's homework, I live in dorms, but that doesn't mean I have no time for wank, In the first days I forced myself to avoid it, by going for a walk, I went to cold showers, then I had to force myself less and less, because I started to lose interest in P. Yes, there were days when I had urges, I had edged for less than a minute, but listen up people, don't do it, even for a one minute, but I continued to live further, I don't need those super monk modes that I forget how my genitalia even looks like, no, I just continue to live like a normal human being. The more you think about nofap, the more you will think about porn as itself, so that is why I am about to leave this forum soon, to start living as nothing has ever happened. When I edged, nothing thank god happened, but it was like playing with fire, some people told me: Bro, you need to reset the counter. Did I ignore them, why? I felt good anyway, I didn't throw myself back to day 0, I still felt happy, fulfilled and etc. It is your choice and those are your rules when to reset, if (you feel like Sh*t) then reset; else Do nothing; About the ladies, yes, the topic in which many of you are interested, yes, I feel more desirable, I feel like I have a price now over my head, there were encounters when two random girls just grab me by the ass firmly and they say: you want to try ours ? yeah, I was also shooookd
One time in the club a lady just looks at me: u lala, look at your chest, and she just stands in front of me and plays with my chest for 30 seconds like glued to it, okay no problem for me Also random girls in dorms just cached me in the hallway and invited to chat, feeded me with brownies. There are more things. People respect me more, I am more chill, like, I don't have that thinking, that I have to impress someone,okay, maybe I started to dress better, but I always liked to dress good, because when I look good, I feel good
I can have a good eye contact, no shyness. I can easily start conversations, but listen, nofap doesn't give you that full reduction in social anxiety, it just gives you a smaaaaal helping hand in starting the first conversations, at the first I was scared of conversations, but I just started talking no matter how I am scared and I started to talk more and more and more and more, till I started to feel more comfortable in conversations, it is a skill which you have to train, nofap doesn't give it to you. If you came to this forum to get those superpowers of walking on the sun, telekinesis etc, forget about them, nofap will help you to clear your brain, but it won't help you with your character, which you have to develop on this journey, nofap will also help with it a bit, for me it increased my testosterone, fixed androgen receptors, so I have a deeper voice, my acne is 90% gone now ( I can eat anything I want, yay ). I have more strength in the gym, and yes, a gym is a must for you, it is a temple of power for me and meditation place, you just turn off your brain and let your inner aborigen do its primal job, lifting heavy sh*t, you just watch him work. It is easier for me to study, I understand topic quicker, I am more open as a person, I am more polite. I feel like I have achieved something in the life, I don't want to relapse anymore when you catch that flirty eye contact with a random passing beautiful lady, you remember that life is too beautiful to ruin it. I feel like a normal 19 y/o guy not a cringy boy. I don't know what to write more about it , because so many things have happened, so I want you to ask me any of your questions and I will be more than happy to answer them

 

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Thank you!

 

I am really happy, that this motivates you to move forward, this is a difficult journey, but step by step, you will reach your goal, but don't be afraid and keep doing what you love and like, happiness is the driving force to goals. I wish you good luck

 

Thank you, and I will !

 

When I didn't know that I am PMO addict, there was a one period when the frequency of PMO increased, which decreased my concentration to the topics, there was a huge brain fog and depression slowly started to kick in, but that was the time when I found out about nofap, I reduced PMO frequency and it improved my ability to focus on topics, but it was years ago, right now, when I relapsed, I felt, that my brain is pressing the brakes and is really slowed down, but right now, as I study, it requires less dedication and focus on complicated problems or topics, the ability to solve problems also improve, you decide faster, you think faster, you solve faster. There is a difference when you relapse and when you stay sober.