10 days contdown

I am little proud to say that from today I can countdown 10 days till it gets 1 year till the last time I watched porn.

What happened in that year, what changed, some thoughts in no particular order.

I am less tired. I socialize more. But also some that seem very close friends disappeared. So definitely a shift from my friends circle.

My relationship with my Girlfriend, which was super turbulent in the beginning settled down. We trust each other much more and we opened to each other. As we are both divorced, we try to do things better than in our previous marriage. I read this two articles today: https://jamesrussell.org/blog/blog/...rom-a-divorced-man-after-16-years-of-marriage
and
https://jamesrussell.org/blog/blog/beautiful-advice-from-a-divorced-man-after-16-years-of-marriage

I agree with a lot written there.

Regarding my sexual power. I am with the quote: "Use it or loose it" So after really not touching my penis for 90 days, that was a really healing process, I strongly believe after some time you should start building power again.
Exercises are a lot to find in the internet, Kegel, yoga, lifting towel with your erected penis, etc...
Also masturbating (of course without porn) and not ejaculating. This was really hard and sometimes it still is: to keep my erection for 15-20 minutes. I believe after max. 20 minutes the penis needs a break from the erection.

What I also believe: just staying away from porn is not all. You really have to work on empowering your sex life. Creativity is needed. Before porn gave you all fake "creativity" After quitting porn, there can be a big black hole.

Sleep enough, eat good, exercise, socialize, read a good book, do creative things, have a walk in nature.

Taming my next addiction: touching my phone to much, is my next task. So instead of lurking on Instagram, FB, etc, reading a book etc...

I wish you all out there good luck in quitting porn. It is completely worth it. Its a big fake that ruins so much, its not worth.

And quitting porn does not mean quitting masturbating. Ejaculate less, that did the trick for me. It is possible to orgasm without ejaculation. And you can do that multiple times in a row. And after that you don´t feel tired. Its the opposite, you feel full of power and energy. That book really helped me a lot. Every man should read this.

Also 10 sessions with a sex therapist really helped me. I can strongly recommend that. Like everywhere it depends on the person, but its good to talk also to a real person, not only a forum (which is great, don´t understand me wrong)

Physical workout is still a little difficult for me. I possibly have to find something that suits to me.

I would never would like to have my life as it was before with porn. Never ever.

 

Thank you