Anxiety

Just relax and dont over think it. There is no relationship without problem. The best thing to do right now is to calm down and figure out what was the cause of the problem. Nothing is going to happen

 

Anxiety is one of the hardest things to deal with and is what lead to my last relapse.
I hope things go well for you and good sleep and calm days abound.

 

Hi, I am a SO and if it helps most of us do understand that you are not doing this on purpose and don't want to, but that does not necessarily make it hurt any less. It feels like cheating to many partners so ask yourself how would you feel if your partner was a sex addict and cheated but said she did not want to? And I'm not sure of your story but if there was lying and it's a lot of it it's very difficult for us.

As far as anxiety, one way I think it helps to look at things is to understand it's outside of your control. I know that's a scary place to be. But understand if you have apologized and you are staying clean then your partner is going to make her decision. Worrying about it will not change that. Sit with your feelings. I know it hurts but don't try to push them down and ignore them. This feeling may be new to you because you pushed it away with addiction. Good luck!

 

Hi my partner was like that to with the lying it was his go to thing just like you to avoid conflict. That's honestly what did our relationship in, more so than the PMO. It may hurt and be uncomfortable for you to tell the truth but everytime you lie it makes it harder to rebuild the trust. I stayed a year to try and make it work, but he just could not get past lying. Be 100 percent honest going forward and get some counseling. It will help with all of these things. My partner had a hyper critical mother, Even as an adult. It caused him to develop extreme anxiety which he used porn to cope with, and lying to avoid conflict. The lying was so ingrained in him he would do it automatically. And once he quit PMO he had no coping mechanism and became a total jerk. He was not ready to change his ways. You are stick to it.