Nudity, girls in bikinis, instagram models, racy anime, etc. It could be anything that excites you but is not explicit sex.
I dont think instagram and facebook is soft porn. If I look on my classmates pictures on fb, I really cant say she is in a soft porn. That is only porn substitute = anything you can use to jerk off instead of porn. Thanks god for K9. My stupid brain already clicked on that link.
Softcore is defined as "suggestive or erotic but not explicit" so by that definition it could include absolutely anything that will trigger you. Could be a racy ad on the subway, a song with suggestive lyrics, even certain infrastructures that have phallic symbols or curves like a woman. This is why I consider NoFap not just about the whole Porn thing but about dealing with our sex-obsessed society. Soft P is everywhere. It's almost inescapable. We live in a sexual bubble.
Nice point So we must try to avoid all this, in our NoFap journeys... since i think one small triggering thing can sometimes set you back for 2-3 days
It's literally impossible to avoid all the "soft P" surrounding you unless you want to live like a hermit in a cave somewhere and your sex-exposed mind will still find a way to sexualize a tree or animal lol. But yes, avoiding all the obviously sexually suggestive stuff is a start. My problem isn't that bad when it comes to that since I work in a mall and constantly exposed to a lot of sexy ads whatnot.
I'm not sure if its the same in America but in the uk they have something called 'page 3 girls', which are pictures of topless women in tabloid 'Newspapers'. From the mid 90's up until a few years ago there used to be something called lads mags which were magazines with lots of pictures of 'glamour models'. The lads mags have mostly ceased publication now due to the internet, but they still have 'page 3 girls' in the newspapers. I would consider these soft porn, and they were quite mainstream, as you could often see them on the shelves in newsagents.
Youtube vids of chicks shaking their butts in music vids or fan cams which can all lead to porn fairly quickly, the mind starts to wander, hand wanders and then the dark journey starts
Softcore porn is nudity. Porn substitutes are things like girls in bikinis and girls on instagram. But your hot model friend posting a picture of her at a club or in a bikini is not softcore porn. However, they can both be very triggering.
Any artificial sexual stimulation, visual or audio depiction, of any kind, that causes a sexual thought, because sexual thoughts lead to a dopamine reward. In fact, and this is especially true during the reboot, anything that causes a dopamine rush must be avoided. So, looking at a person we find attractive, smelling perfume, a sexual thought, noticing an attractive feature; it need not be a depiction of anything especially sexual, but if it causes a dopamine rush by creating a sexual thought, it should be avoided in the reboot.
I don’t agree. I do agree with the artificial part, but not the real life woman part. Looking at an attractive person is NORMAL. I mean yeah don’t go around eye fucking people and doing creepy shit. But a normal healthy reaction is fine. I do think we should avoid anything artificial. But sometimes people take things too far and can’t even keep it up anyway, no pun intended, and just end up relapsing and going around in circles. Live a normal life! Just don’t use porn or any porn subs. Stay away from fantasy and fantasizing but be a normal fucking person. If you see a pretty girl it’s okay to smile at her, or get a hard on if that’s a natural response.
Very very good point. I have seen this before with people going round in a circle by going too far. They made a real mess of things, trying to abstain from every thing, not even looking at women and punishing themselves. There is a slap back effect, they had affairs while married, visited hookers on a regular basis, their lives became a mess.
@lekasenor Actually, the part about just looking at real women is meant for "during the reboot." Just looking, for the fun of it, is, actually just using reality to get a sexual thought to get a dopamine release. It is quite close to closing your eyes and fantasizing. That is off limits, during the reboot, because it is artificial sexual stimulation which directly results in a shot of the drug we are addicted to; dopamine. After the reboot, if you are off porn addiction, then, get back to normal and look, but get back to normal, first.