I'm in love should I tell her?

She sees you as a friend. 100 percent guaranteed. Sounds like a classic case of oneitis.

I would just move on. Be friendly and courteous. And even be truthful about your feelings if you want. But ultimately she's in a relationship and it does you no good to obsess over her, especially if the interest isn't mutual.

 

What's the point of telling her? There is none. She is married. If anything it would just make your friendship awkward and possibly end it. Of course unless you think she would be willing divorce for you. Or to cheat on her husband, which is an action that I can not and will not ever support or recommend...

 

Don't listen to the other people here. Do what you want. Plenty of marriages end in devorce, 50% of them in fact. That mean ATLEAST half of all married couples are unhappy with there partner.

You are 51 years old. Don't tell her you love her, show her you love her. Just go up to her and kiss her and see how she responds. If she doesn't respond well just say sorry. But just doing nothing when you like a girl? Obviously see if she really likes her husband, asses what type of girl she is.
Hope that helps

 

By the way, just to be clear, I am not saying that he should not let her know. If he thinks she is ready to divorce for him then why not? If that's the case then their marriage is in bad state anyways with or without his interference, so it would not be his fault. It's just cheating behind her husband's back that I am against...

 

Cos cats doesn't talk back, they don't have very good conversation skills.

 

Um, this a horrible first move. Even if she wasn't married, I would not advise just walking up to a women, kissing her and seeing how she responds.

 

@fupornwife It works in high school, ya know... Tested and proven to be effective. To achieve the best possible results leading experts in the industry recommend to combine with slight boob squeeze.

 

I don't think you should tell her that you love her.You two are not in a relationship she just sees you as a friend.She just someone to use emotionally when things aren't going so great with her husband.It could also be that she just just wants someone to talk to and listen to her.I think she knows that you like her,women aren't stupid when it comes to feelings.If you feel that your feelings are too strong you should cut ties with her or tell her how you feel.

 

Snort. I'm pretty sure that's sarcasm but either way I enjoyed your comment immensely! LOL

 

That's how it works dude, idk how u get women but here in the West if u do tht girls know u got balls

 

Ain't nothing worst then being in the friend zone.. I remember one time this girl once told me I'm like a sister to her.. How in the world did I get sister zoned?! Anyways, you need to move on IMHO. you caught feelings for someone who's married. And if a girl cheats on her man for you? guess who she finna cheat on next

 

I think this is a thoughtful post. It is a little harsh, though. In my opinion there are four options:

1) You don't tell her your feelings and she doesn't love you. You will hopefully end up moving on to someone else.
2) You don't tell her your feelings and she does love you. She divorces her husband and marries you (there is a lower chance that this happens than if you tell her your feelings). There might be some tension between you and here ex/kids.
3) You tell her your feelings and she doesn't love you. She will probably back away from you (only you know exactly how she will react to this).
4) You tell her your feelings and she loves you. She divorces her husband to get together with you. @New Life Mantra 333 described this in detail.

As I said earlier, the outcome of these options is dependent on the current situation and relationship between you and her. Only you can really determine what will happen.

That being said, it seems that whether she likes you or not, it is better to hold off.

Feel free to disagree!