Cuckold fetish recovery

Hey, brother! Welcome to the NoFap gang!

I believe almost everyone can recover from porn addiction and fucked up fetishes, some people may take more time to recover than others though.

I've also watched cuckold porn for God knows how many hours but not because I have a fetish, but because many cuckold videos have super hot chicks but I admit that many videos in that category are too fucked up.

I hope you recover ASAP! Good luck!

 

I suffered from some heavy developed fetishes and I can say: they are gone.

You need to find out what drives your fetish. You need to dismantle it, so to speak.
Once you 've dismantled it, you will find the underlaying pain and fear. That is the real deal to be resolved.

 

look at the 12 steps of AA and apply them to your addiction.

 

This is very interesting for me
I watch porn for years now - currently super clean for 33 days - and recently (few years) i have developed some strong fetishes (2-3 in fact).
How to dismantle them? what is the process? Im very interested and will highly appreciate support!

 

For you I think it's easier to dismantle your fetishes because you developed them later.
What you need to do is just walk the way back.
A fetish is a sexualized, emotional need.
What did you really need in the time that you started to try to fulfill this need with a certain kind of porn?
And look carefully to the kind of porn you "need". That will bring you back to the original issue, or trauma that needs attention.
I've read fantastic books about how to find the real causes of the unwanted sexual behavior.
I also write a bunch of stuff in my own journal, so maybe that can help you as well.

Becoming conscious and realizing what actually is happening are important.
And of course, staying clean from porn is very important as that will clear the mind enought to understand what actually is going on.

 

Thx Bro!
Can you be a little more specific? I dont want to write here what exactly fetishes' i developed - no need to be visual here.

Can you recommend me your post about the topic, book or podcast? I can contact you with DM if you can help me
cheers

 

As this is your journal, I really would recommend to open up your secrets.
I think the only way to dismantle our dark stuff is to bring it in the light, into the openness.

You can find my journal here.
On the first page I made a table of content.
You can read there how I dismantled my fetishes, so I hope it will inspire you to start your own process.

 

thx. My fetish for p..n and s.x was/is - domination over female partner.
Not real violence. Not any type of real forced sex or r..e. Nothing like that.
MY fetish is to have full control over woman during s.x. to have her follow my lead and orders. voluntary not be forcing her.
To have her performing certain acts that would demonstrate her submissiveness to me. Also cuckqueaning - having s.x with another female in front of my current partner (or imaginary partner), but this is i guess a form of domination as well.

I guess this is quite typical fetish. any advise , guidance?

 

Can it be that your "need to dominate women" is a way to express a deep anger or hatred towards a certain woman?
Your mother for example....

Or:
Is this maybe a way to control women because a sexual partner dumped you in the past?
Or maybe you was actually controlled (=emotionally (ab)used) by your mother?

Share a bit more about how the relationships with your father and mother was.

 

I was harsly dominated by my father who was a raving madman.
Mom - not really - she was a victim as well.

Till the time and during the time of University i was not great with girls. Not really dating. First sex after 20 yo.
I was not shy in groups - quite opposite - but with girls i liked i was very shy. I was putting my self ofter into the fiend zone.
I was always very visual so i easy get into p..n. How ever domination over woman - this is rather last few years i guess.
I have a wife with whom i was having good sexual life for many years.

 

Well, I think this need some serious attention and an issue to work through with a therapist or so.

 

yes - that's one of the things i already work with my therapist. I'm on therapy for almost a year now.
thank you for your help.
any other advise is welcome!-

 

Well, it's now up to you to find the link between the horrible attitude of your own father, and what emotional damage that did to you, and the way it has led you into your unwanted sexual behavior.

 

how to do it? Therapist?

 

Well, can you formulate your own ideas based on the things i already mentioned ??
You need to learn to think for yourself, that's a very important step in the recovery process.