i've been so alone for so long... i need new friends

Good for you that you decided to quit those degenerate lifestyles! I'm not sure how do you form internet friends on Nofap but best of luck to your reboot journey!

 

I admire you for seeking a solution.

I have noticed that when I am off of the pmo (currently on a streak now), and I have
the diet, fitness and other disciplines going, it's hard to get motivated to
grind at the job.

I think my old mindset was to work and come home and seek pleasure. I've had white collar, blue collar, retail and entry level labor jobs. I got home and I was spent. And I could
lay down, but that feeling of exhaustion only caused me to seek pleasure. But nothing really made me feel better.

At any rate, the thing that helped me break out was more fitness. After the soreness period, I had a lot more energy after work. It's tough to get the habit started. The best thing to do is to start small and add more every other week.

I found that when I took time off, going back the first day was really hard. I preferred to work every day, fewer hours. When I had that rhythm, it was easier to stay in it, than to stop it and restart it.

But the fact of life is that most people have to do jobs that suck to pay the bills. Few are the
people who can earn money doing what they want. The best thing to do is to accept that
most jobs are either boring, stupid, labourious, or exhausting in some other way.
Also, bosses are either mean to the point of cruelty or indifferent, and
co-workers are either too stupid to help or are out to put you in a trap.

So we pay the bills and work a side hustle, with an eye to make it the main thing...

 

You're in college? Yeah, I'm a graduate. Textbooks are hard to read.

What helped me out was to always take notes while I read, even when I already had the notes.
It gave me something interactive to do. I didn't care about the notes, I usually already
had those from class or if I'd already read it, sometimes I threw those away.

Anyway, at the end of the day, in America, nobody cares about your GPA. They just want you
to suit up and show up at work. It's only important if you are going to grad school, or
some academic jobs.

 

Yeah, hang in there buddy. I wasn't much of a scholar. I was surrounded by intellects. They got in because of brains. I barely squeaked in when the minimum standards were much lower.

But I met a guy just before college when I was working at a restaurant. It's the kind of advice that some people think is crap, others think it wise. I am undecided.

Anyway, he said, just pass. Don't waste all your time studying to get an A. College level is too hard. Nobody cares about your GPA. If they're going to hire you, the GPA isn't going to be a factor, not in business jobs.

Now I look back, and for me, that was good advice because I just wasn't a scholar. But if someone has either the aptitude, desire or need, they probably should try harder.

Do you know what kind of career you want to build?

 

Ey depolitie.
How is it going? Iam from The Netherlands.
Please send me a DM if you would like to be in contact.

 

I met a guy who worked for ATA, which was an American airline, and I think it's out of business now.

He led tour groups all over the world. I thought it sounded like fun. But in terms of the type of freedom you mention, I don't think there are many jobs like that.

They're jobs. By definition. They suck, right? So we try to either succeed as entrepreneurs or work our way up.

 

No. I like gig work because there's a lot of freedom. It's pays ok. It used to pay better.

Usually people can't do a job that they like that also pays the bills. If you can start a business, do something that starts really cheap. Something you can do in your spare time, something that has
very little in start up costs, something that you enjoy. Keep at it, give it one or two hours every day. It might take several years like that to grow, but it might be able to.

In terms of what to do, nobody can tell you that. Some people know and some don't. I was a musician from way, way back. Jobs were just, and still are, a way to pay the bills. I'm not emotionally involved. Getting enough streams built up is a serious challenge. However many there are isn't really what I'm in it for. I'm still going to do it.

If you don't know, then keep investing in the suffering of the reboot. If you research it, by the end of the reboot you'll know your path. If you don't at the end of the reboot, keep rebooting until it comes to you. Work whatever jobs you have to while you wait. An idea could arise out of that, or a contact.