How has your attraction to women changed over the years?or has it not?

But it does make it easier to read. A block of words without paragraphs can be overwhelming.

 

Maybe it is better that you shouldn't read what I have wrote. Maybe it is a waste of time. Although I posted this comment, I don't know if I have the power to talk about it. Nothing will change anyways.

 

After years of slowly using less porn my attraction has changed a lot.

Personality and values matter more. Type of clothing, and whatever else makes up my initial judgements (which are usually wrong), matter less.

I still find women who are in shape most attractive. But I no longer put extra emphasis on sexual cues - whether clothing or mannerisms or whatever. She can be super cute/sexy but I can be put off if she's immature or narcissistic.

Age interest changed too. I find I view younger women (late teens/early 20s) with less attraction. There is attraction, but I also feel like being a mentor when I interact with them.

Still attracted to older women (40s+) but I am at least more conscious that it's a fetish or coping mechanism or something.

 

In the last few years, I’ve been noticing people differently. There are certainly features on women that I am attracted to, but since I have been practicing not sexualizing women, I appreciate their personality more.
Even in movies I find myself much more focused on character development than appearance. (That didn’t use to be the case)

 

My attraction has definitely changed.
As a kid, I used to only go for light skinned girls who had the hourglass body and big eyes and long hair.
Redheads specifically. (Still love natural redheads)
When i was a teen, I went for the alternative, goth, and metalhead girls.
Early 20's, artsy girls.
Now, I like any girl as long as you got a cute face, and I can put my arms around you.
Personality hooks me in more than looks.
You could be light skin, dark skin,
Tall, short, fit, or not, middle class, lower class, wealthy, i don't care.

My whole life i always liked Milf-y women who had curves.
Never liked the baby-face "Ariana Grande," "Selena Gomez" look where their faces look like preteens. Yuck.

 

Believe it or not, Despite dealing with PMO I actually had a very low sex drive. I am on the spectrum a bit bipolar and i was born prematurely I sometimes feel those might have impacted my sex drive. That said I had some girls take interest in me and I been around perverted guys talking about girls but I had no interest I started watching porn at 14 and I never knew why it was never normal videos by normal I mean basic guy and women videos with casual sex husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend. It was always fetish-related nothing too extreme but very taboo. I still don't know why I was attracted to those types of videos since I never wanted to do those things my best guess is it was from spiritual warfare demons putting thoughts in my head.

I still kind of have a low sex drive I guess idk. In terms of women, I am open to a relationship now I was never really open to that before I was sexually confused I called myself asexual because I had no thoughts but sometimes I had thoughts about both women and men. Overall I got better control of my mind and I am somewhat between asexual and heterosexual having a girlfriend or wife is not something I think about a lot but once I come across a woman I like a lot and she has the same feelings for me I will be open to starting a relationship with her.

Also, I do not know why believe it or not came out bold I must have clicked something by mistake lol.