Hi Guys! Pretty much the title speaks itself out. Anyone actually date a very beautiful girl and found out that she was not the one for you, but then came across a not a so beautiful girl and she turned out to be a perfect match for you! I have never dated anyone but naturally feel very gravitated towards attractive girls but then eventually tune out once I found out when they have loose character, do drugs etc.
Happens most of the times bro. Good psychology and personality wins over the ones that look good almost any time in my book!
The guys I know in the best marriages are with women whose looks are nothing to write home about. In contrast, the hotter/beautiful/sexier she is, rest assured the likelihood of her being an Insufferable Byatch is almost guaranteed. Absolute power corrupts absolutely.
Yeah. If you’re trying to find some girl do not make her physical looks your highest priority because she will eventually hit the Wall and her looks will fade anyway.
If you think looks have any correlation to if someone is interesting—spoiler—they don’t. There are interesting beautiful people and uninteresting unattractive people. Attraction goes beyond just the physical. And it’s subjective anyway. How about we just date interesting people we’re attracted to?
Thats precisely the problem, most people prioritize the attraction before the actual non-physical interesting stuff.
…which bites you in the ass after you realize this awesome gal who’s not a bikini model but still cute and sexy would have rocked your world. People with great personalities only get hotter. Took me awhile to learn this lesson.
This is like a movie you find love in all the wrong places. But yes this have been me my whole entire life. I've attracted some attractive girls in my past and believe me I was very happy when I thought they were the right one, especially for looks that just made me gaze into them. But in reality the most beautiful woman are very high maintenance from my experience. My first girlfriend was a very attractive blonde at the age of 19. I thought she was perfect although not knowing how much tid bits of narcissistic she was. It's like everything was okay with what she did, but when I tried kissing or whatever it wasn't the right time or I was too much. But when she wanted to kiss me it was like, okay were cool. I've also attracted allot of Woman who are less attractive but the weird thing is. We have had connection's and things in common despite the attractive Woman. I don't know why this is, but you can't judge a gal on how she looks which is what I've realized. I think they are less concerned about their bodies. They care more on emotion and well being to others.
If that's the case, I must be going through a radically different struggle, because my issue is finding both boring looking women and highly attractive women, while inventing all types of excuses as to why I should stay away from both. I know this is going to sound unrealistic and it probably is but expressing feelings in real time is quite hard for me. Even though it is considered "natural", by modern media. This is why I long for a woman who truly appreciates me having around, and does things to "Crack open my shell so to speak". Because I don't generally like opening up to women who at the best don't care or at the worst pretend to care in order to manipulate me.
It's known as a compensation factor some times. If you don't have the looks you can compensate by having say money as a man, cooking skills as a woman or something else. A lot of these very attractive girls tend to get guys without even trying and they can even treat them like dirt, they know there is a long line waiting anyway to get with them. Not so pretty girls/guys however need to use other skills.
I also often have such experiences. Some people may not seem attractive on the outside, but their inner lives are surprisingly colorful. I have seen many girls or boys like this. Although they may not seem attractive, they do not smoke or drink, and have a fairly loyal marriage view. Because of this, these people seem to look like handsome men and beautiful women（for me）
I like to think that's God granting a form of gender equality, He gave riches to foolish men so he gave foolish women the looks of Actresses.
What you have to understand is that physically attractive people have several advantages over average or ugly people. I don't say this bitterly, it's a simple, observable biological fact that the human brain is wired to view attractive people in a more favorable light and to treat them differently. I'm not a scientist so I cannot say exactly why that is, but it's part of the phenomena that leads to men simping for women who killed their husbands and women lusting after known rapists. People who are attractive literally can and do get away with stuff an average looking person wouldnt. The flipside of this is that an average looking person has to work harder to make themselves desirable and as such they often end up being better partners long term. It sounds trite but good looks fade but an endearing personality, tangible skills or shared interests can last a lot longer. I'm not saying go for women you are not attracted to, but at the same time if you broaden your horizons you can find appealing women of all shapes and sizes.
Yes it happens all the time to guys. Usually, the guys have connections with less attractive girl than the hot girl with issues. I wouldn't think too hard about it. Just define what you are after, friends with benefits, friends only, relationships etc and take it from there.
Why are you asking questions about attractive women vs interesting women when you "have never dated anyone?" It's good to be curious, but I think the bigger issue is that you need to go out on a date. What's holding you back? For me one of the greatest pleasures in life is spending time with a person that I'm romancing. Dating is fun, getting to know someone, finding the mutual attraction, having sex, etc. The most important part of romance is finding that person interesting. Looks are important, but if you find someone interesting they magically become more attractive to you! Good luck and I hope you get a date to enjoy.
I'm going to hone in on the part where you said you've never dated anyone. Clearly, meeting less attractive but more interesting women doesn't always lead to a date. I learned this the hard way. The truth is, I thought I found a girl who was a perfect match, and she wasn't all that attractive. We went out for coffee a few times, and then I took her to my favourite restaurant. Turns out, I found out she was using me for free meals and free rides to work. I was so upset that I almost relapsed just to escape from the feeling of being stupid. I hate feeling stupid; that's what most of my porn use stemmed from. Anyway, that girl I mentioned wasn't my girlfriend (and our meetups were not dates), but part of the reason I felt so stupid was because I sort of liked her. I hated actually talking to her (she talked at me rather than talking to me, cutting me off before I could respond), but we shared common interests. I was so amazed that a woman was showing me any real attention; she gave me her number without me asking for it, and was trying to arrange times for me to hang out with her. I felt special almost, and I was dumb enough to credit Nofap for this, because I let the ideologues on this forum convince me that this would happen after some time. Turns out, I was just another guy she was doing this to, and I feel stupid and used. Of course, I'm never going to make this mistake again, or allow my feelings to override my better judgement. I agree that some unattractive/less attractive women are more interesting, but that's to be expected. Less attractive people aren't being kept around because of their looks; they need to develop other traits to seem appealing. Of course, that seems to work better for women than men. Still, don't mind me; if this observation leads to you meeting interesting people, then go for it.
