Plz HELP ME OUT

I did not know you hadn’t watched porn for quiet a while, that’s a significant achievement. Now is the time to figure out what’s next, while continuing to work on your social anxiety. You’ve taken steps digitally by starting a thread for NNN and encouraging others and I know it’s not the same but it’s a first step. So dig deeper, figure out, what’s your next big goal and just like you quit porn, go and try to achieve it. I know we have COVID but can you go outside at all, or are you in complete lockdown?

 

Do you feel the benefits of abstinence in other areas of your life or no benefits whatsoever?

 

God bless Murica.
Here in good old Europe (at least in my country) we have a hardcore lockdown. You are not allowed to leave your house unless it's for work or the supermarket or some other life-or-death stuff. It's completely forbidden to meet ANYONE who doesn't live in your household.
If you get caught you get locked up or fined a few thousand bucks.

Good times.

 

Yep, I'm in the same thing too. Time crawls by. Can't get out of bed. Headaches, struggle to do simple tasks. Exhaustion. Yes, this is a flatline (P.A.W.S.). This is a sign that our brains are repairing themselves a little at a time. From what I understand, our brains got flooded with dopamine due to our excessively long periods of excitement with PMO. Over time, our brain has to remove the excess dopamine and stops producing for a while to achieve homeostasis. We don't know how long it will last. I've had on and off flatlines for almost a month now. Yes, it's Hell, but I've had periods of a few days where I came out of it and it's night and day. I am normally outgoing but I have social anxiety and depression right now too. Just got to do one day at a time best we can. How long did you use PMO before this streak? Congrats on 100 days btw.

 

Another hard part of this phase is feeling detached from others because we are basically emotionless and are starved of dopamine. Just try to stay positive, I know how hard it is. At times, I have felt like there's no way I can do this, but from last Monday-Thursday, I had a great stretch out of the flatline where it all seems worth it because life is amazing. Just trust.

 

Stop it - dont look at them, learn that, walk with ure eyes down, control ure self, u got 100 days u idiot, me and others on are struggling to get 5 7 12 days, dont fock it up, - am gonna watch ure fucking thread - dont let me see it at 0 zero - DAMM that dude got to 100 days and now zero.
Since u been perving and looking at them that way - u should pray and meditate, you need to watch EVERY SINGLE THOUGH WHICH COMES INTO URE HEAD, IF YOU CAN MONITOR THIS - THEN YOU WILL BEAT THIS, ALL NASTY DISGUSTING THOUGHTS NEED TO BE WIPED IN URE MIND UNDER 0.01 SECS

Also just read ure thread fully - they dudes on here - WANT U TO FOCK UP - BAD ADVICE -

My story yeh i just discovered Nofap - May AND yeh i ve been struggling my streaks are like 5 8 12 days back to 0 then 5 7 12 days - so their u go am in a fucking sick cycle and u are out AND STAY OUT - I hope u read this quickly

And Hit the Gym, train the legs, squats, tights.

HEARTS ON FIRE - JUST WANNA HELP NOW

 

I have felt a huge increase in urges since stopping and in a similar situation too. I think this is natural, but we have to be extra careful. Sometimes seeing a fully clothed women triggers the mind bc it's so sensitized now

 

Their is no magic trick, potion, tonic to re-wire ure mind, it will take brute AWARENESS/CONTROL/DISCIPLINE to get through each DAY, One wrong move and ure back to zero. Ure surroundings have MINES/TRAPS out their - avoid stepping on them and u will be SAFE.
Hearts On Fire

 

Lmao I feel like in America, what the people want to do is just very different from what the government is doing based on the information we're getting.

Like in the Bay Area in California, businesses are either shut down or limited to 25% capacity, the governor has the power to order counties what can open based on any reason they want, and some places will fine you for not wearing a mask in public. However, some counties in California (like my hometown), are only reporting 1 death per 5,000 people IN TOTAL, deaths are declining even though cases are going up, big department stores and companies are staying open but small businesses have to stay closed, and those small businesses are going into severe debt or closing because they have no income and no help from the government.

Conversely, people in places like Florida and North Dakota are pissed because the government is letting everything stay open and people can do whatever they want, and hospitals are starting to turn people away, deaths are exponentially increasing, and it's just an all around shit show.

My friend from France told me they had a national lockdown for a few months, but like everyone kinda did their part and stayed home (this never happens in lockdowns in America because people dgaf lol), and for a few months she was able to travel to Italy (which used to be the center of all this!), hang with her friends, and just live her life. Now things are a little worse so the government is shutting shit down again, but the way their leaders have explained everything and implemented changes have brought together those countries and helped everyone out, whereas in America it got super politicized because of Trump and the election year, leading the Republicans and Democrats to take completely different approaches, both equally pissing people off. Like there's no middle ground for governmental action, so people are just kinda doing what they think is best.

 

Those months of bingeing definitely hurt, but you have the discipline to make this streak go further. Keep going and eventually our flatlines will end and we will see life's true beauty. Good work

 

I feel you on the urges in the flatline tho...feels like my brain is starving for PMO as now I can get aroused if I see a woman's face in my peripheral vision... I am so sensitive to urges again.

 

HeartsOnFire11's advice is spot on. I wanted to add in a lot but decided to keep it short. The place where I am from, we call it Brahmacharya.

NoFap is an anglicized version of Brahmacharya. Honestly, it is just the shell of this deep-rooted age-old concept.

To PMO addict1 :
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I can say this from knowledge and experience. Your problem with a lusty disposition of mind and your suspicion of it diluting your gains is well-founded. Lust is evil. It is a strong force. It is no easy enemy to deal with. You need to uproot lust completely if you expect to see some tangible gains in NoFap.

If you have lust harboring in your mind, you have my word (you may write it down) - you cannot succeed in NoFap or Brahmacharya. All your efforts will be for naught. You will fall hard, and damn ugly will it be! You will spiral back into the abyss of addiction. It will be terrible.

The primary goal of Brahmacharya is to eliminate lust from the conscience. As long as lust lurks in the dark corners of your heart, you risk having a relapse. Only when you free yourself of lust, you can expect to shine in the glory of NoFap. NoFap (purity) is a virtue while lust is a vice. The two cannot coexist and they never will. Just as fire and ice do not, as light and shadow do not.

My advice is: Try sincerely and to the utmost of your capabilities to purge lust from your mental and spiritual planes. You must never ever look at women unchastely. Have perfect purity in your vision and thoughts. Give no room to lust. May the Force be with you.