I have been in this site for years now. Many times I attempt a streak, but fall after. To be fair, I noticed I don’t change too much for the next time I try a stream. I usually put a little effort in research, try it, and move on. Maybe I should be more conscious in finding a solution. I used to feel broken and that I am stuck with this problem, but I embraced it a little. I thought might as well give into the urges until I am at a position to fix them. Here is the situation: Any slight similarity to the female body starts my motor. Since it’s already on, I’ll PMO to feed that desire and turn that engine off quickly. This becomes a problem when it happens consistently. Now, I’m in a cycle where a movie, game, or person in public gets me thinking about PMO and I act on it. A day or 2 most and the cycle resets. Today I came to the realization that I don’t know how to break this cycle, and I need help. I don’t know if this will be the final time or it’s another relapse waiting to happen. Whatever it is, I want to try again. This time around, I noticed 3 major issues: giving into feelings, having trouble making new habits, and finding the right motivation Giving into feelings means I don’t know how to say no to desires. I want to see a naked woman, so I go looking for her. I want to eat unhealthy, so I drink a coke and eat a dessert later. I feel lazy and don’t want to walk today, so I stay inside. I really don’t know how to say no to these feelings. Making new habits connects with the previous because i don’t feel like continuing certain habits after a set amount of time. I try to spend more time on homework. Day one I was motivated to do so. Day two I got bored and played video games instead. I try to stop drinking soda, but I drank one in celebration which lead to me getting back into soda. Lastly, finding the right motivation means finding something that is stronger than the feeling. I want to be healthier, but junk food tastes better. I want to stop doing PMO, but the urge is greater than the end goal. Overall, I made decent progress in my past, but now I’m at a crossroads for which I need extra aid. I truly appreciate anything that y’all can offer me.
What are you gonna do to break the cycle? What are you gonna do to not relapse again? What actions will you take? What will you do when you have urges? What means healthy for you? What are you gonna do to be healthier?
Well, it takes a lot of time and a lot of effort. And, frankly, you will probably fail a lot. What matters is attitude. Forget will power - it does not work. However, you need to work out your reasons why you need to quit. You need to think more about the person you want to be and the person you do not want to be. You need to be optimistic. Don't try to change everything in your life at once because that's always a recipe for failure. Try to change small things and work on changing your thinking. What is the worst thing that will happen if you do not watch porn today? Good luck.
This is helpful. I’ve tried so many times to stop, but life is hard and it just takes a stressful day and I’m at square one. I think of all the things I could have done in my years of PMO, and often that thought gets me depressed and I start again. Advice?