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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Jamison, May 19, 2015.

  1. Jamison

    Jamison New Fapstronaut

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    I guess the first step is admitting you have a problem. I've taken this step and in looking for help stumbled across NoFap.....hoping I can get things going.....or stopping....here...

    Currently working in an isolated area overseas. Started to look for some fun sexual banter online.......good ole' fashion porn wasn't enough....craved interaction....banter. Unfortunately I stumbled across it on Cam 2 Cam sites......6 weeks and about $5 grand later.....I think I've got a problem........problem is......I love every minute of it.

    I know it is crazy....and I have to stop.......but man oh man....where do I start...I guess right here....

    I'll start perusing here and try to pull myself away from the other sites........Any suggestions or comments or derogatory comments are welcome and deserved. I'd also like to here of any real benefits from quitting....besides the obvious, $$$, Sleep.

    Thanks for reading my post......

    Jamison
     
  2. Formysons

    Formysons Fapstronaut

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    Jamison you can do this. Stay connected and press on.
     
  3. kikstart

    kikstart Fapstronaut

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    At times i debate myself, which is more inprisonating, the constant need for PMO or knowing that I cant PMO?
    And I try explaining my self that PMO is werse simply because it canceles out so much more fun things that can be doing. instead of being at a party with friends its always on my mind and so on....
    Vs as not PMOing I'm not locked to the constant NEED to be alone to PMO.
    So perhaps think to your self about that freedom that you will have when your hands can be doing other things then "M"ing.
    Yes its not easy to achieve but as most good things in life it takes the WILL to achieve it.
     
  4. Jamison

    Jamison New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks Formyson1.......I spent 2 hours on the site reading last night.......that was two hours I normally would have been on pornsite......looking forward to getting started


    Thanks Kick Start.......I've always enjoyed time alone or doing quite things even before the porn things got out of hand.....some how I made it to 52 years old before this becoming a problem...I think it is related to living and working in an isolated area, away from home, for a long period of time with good internet. Thank you for the encouragement it feels better to know there is support here.



     
  5. ezmon

    ezmon Fapstronaut

    Hey,

    Porn is like a drug. As soon as you see this filthy stuff your brain releases endorphin. The release is a natural process because your brain actually thinks that you just have found a new partner to have intercourse with. It cannot differ between porn consumption and real intercourse in a natural and useful way. Because you see a lot of women on your screen just by clicking and clicking, you're getting stimulated excessively which causes more and more release of endorphin in your brain. Now when you stop watching porn for a while, you're brain goes crazy because it wants endorphin. The typical course of a developing addiction.

    The aftereffects are that after a time you get overstimulated and get a worse sexual behavior. Not only that. Your interest of women in real life minimizes because you are used to watch women in edited videos whose sexual behavior is abnormal and mostly faked. Porn will change your view on women dramatically. Every time you see an attractive women you imagine filthy stuff with her, right ? Instead of recalling to your self that they are just humans as you and me. That's all because of porn. Sex in real life isn't like sex on your screen. Keep that in your mind!

    Porn slowly takes you out of the real world. If you don't do anything now you'll once find yourself in a deep, dark hole. Your heart will harden and you'll feel less and less.

    I've gone through that and that's why I have to make a change and I recommend you to also try to make a change to live a more native life.

    With the best regards

    ezmon

    EDIT: Just wanted to mention that you also should inquire yourself about the working conditions of porn-actress and how they get treated "backstage". Trust me. Seeing that will show you the truth. Also visit sites like www.yourbrainonporn.com or watch videos on YouTube according to this and inquire yourself about porn and its risks / aftermaths to learn more. ;)
     
    Last edited: May 20, 2015
  6. Jamison

    Jamison New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks EZMON......you hit the nail on the head with taking me out of the real world.....been obsessed the last 6 weeks on Cam sites.....thinking I'm some sort of Casanova......what a dumb ass......working on recovery.......Like the concept of "More Native Life".......going to use that...thanks!!!! Jamison
     

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