THE DUELS OF NOFAP: NO PMO TOURNAMENT | OPEN FOR ALL

Hmm. Well, the biggest thing so far that has helped me was definitely water fasting. It was uncomfortable at time, had my own demons to deal with, but I feel I burned down a lot of old mental garbage during it. The discipline it gave me was a huge boost to nofap journey. And I feel it did more, like resetting my hormonal system and brain in some way. Because urges and bad thoughts are completely wiped away.

And I did a long fast too. Most of people here probably should not do as long one. Intermittent fasting is a good start - one meal a day, or even 16:8. If you are up for the challenge 4 day water fast every two weeks or 48 hour water fast during weekends, every week. All of these are good methods.

Another thing was mindfulness practice. I did slack on actual meditation, but I had a practice. Always when something came up observe it objectively. Observe the thought or desire, or urge, feeling, etc. And try to stay in the present moment as much as possible. Plus remember that everything comes in waves. They come and go. So when things get rough it won't be lie that forever. Also do mindfulness meditation!

 

I'll try. Thanks

 

Sex is sacred

 

I would like to join too, @Saiyan123 can you set me up with someone ? and I should say, you are doing so much to keep track of everything and you are putting up so much effort. I would be ready to help in anyway at all if possible.

I would like to challenge @Zen Mode to a duel, if he's okay with it too.

 

Would you be willing to share your tips with me? I sure would appreciate your help. Thank you!

 

Yes it is. And we all are not just males and females but actually the essence of love embodied in physical form. Small kids remember that and we see that in them. We often forget it when we grow up.

 

Only Satan would make you think otherwise

 

so it's a 1v1 against actually starting today?

 

I mean nowadays consumerism is everywhere, we are even being "sold" as products in the eyes of Facebook (as its clients are advertisement companies not us), we swipe left and right on Tinder, porn is distorting the actual reality of interactions between men and women etc etc. I mean - you can have sex with a partner in all possible poses and manners, you can add more players to the game - you may make love to him or her real good but in this way you will never make love to their soul as well. Masculine and feminine energies exist for a purpose. One only has to wake up and see beyond the veil.
@Freedom_lover, @BeastBoyBalling, @010010010100000101001101 - all good? Remember we're in this together!

 

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All the writings about how we're hacking our way through using porn by not achieving anything real and only a dopamine shot. Then It should be the same analogy in a broader sense too.
The same mechanism isn't their so that you can have casual sex, it's their so that you can build a society. Have a loving relation with someone. Build a family. I would then argue that you are using the dopamine hack by having casual sex and not achieving the real goals. Therefore you need to treat it the same way you treat porn. There's so many evils associated with this. Especially when they're young and do something and then fail to take responsibility for it. Top much can be said about it.

 

5 days of NoFap
5 days of positive thinking
5 days of sit ups, press ups and leg raises

The duel is on like donkey kong bro

 

Of course you are not my Enemy but a rival. The End Boss is the Addiction but with eavh day and each name I fight the Addiction itself in the same time I know you did just play with him. It feels like a hand to hand combat fighting against someone else

 

Damn u guys are on fire today.

 

You do what you have to do young monk, you’re a smart young kid. Everyone wants different things in life, you will learn more as you grow..

But remember when you lose you will put “the devil took my soul” in your status. I will tear off your limbs and attach to a dead horse’s body

 

My tips? Well I'm a girl and I'm facing somewhat different challenges. I am a daughter (1st child) of a narcissistic father and enabling mother who supported everything he said or did and had no voice (fulfilling the wife's duty to be submissive and obedient to her husband maybe? - I don't care now). So I only got attention on condition that I suck it up and man up, tears and emotions are sign of weakness, I never measured up and was never enough, and my father was emotionally unavailable and his emotions were changing super fast. I read somewhere that the main thing a daughter needs from her father is a sense of security and stability - and when she gets none she then subconsciously searches for it in men. And men are kinda ready to give that to her in exchange for sex. So I see the main cause of my struggle with PMO, toxic relationships, maybe even promiscuity during some period in the past to be my codependency or love addiction. Searching for love that I never got from my father. I hate him for that. I respect him and my mother for giving life to me but I hate both of them. I don't love them because they did not teach me how to love and respect myself and I learned it the hard way. By getting one dart after the other deep into my heart.
Things that help me are: planning my day, sufficient amount of rest, meal planning (I'm recovering from eating disorder and am attending therapy), no unnecessary stimulation e.g. social media, media news, tv, low information diet, no screens from 9 pm until 9 am, no potential romantic acquaintances for at least 6 months, meditation, exercising (I get up at 4.30 am or 5 am to do that first thing in the morning), journalling, affirmations&visualisation, being involved in accountability group, a few female APs who have also been codependents in the past and are now healing. Full-time work and kids (I'm a single mom and I get hardly any help from my family - but well what else could I expect? I maintain very low contact with them - Xmas, Easter, birthdays and that's mostly it). Social media detox for almost 70 days now is doing wonders for me - it made me more mindful. Also, due to no PMO I started to tune into more to my body and to be gentle and loving towards it - after two events in the past, one of sexual assault (did not report) and another of attempt to commit one (went through the entire proceedings until he ended up in jail) I hated my body so much that I engaged with men and did nasty things with them, then dumped them. Probably a subconscious replay of revenge against the rapist?
Anyway - there is light on another side of the tunnel and I will get there. I've survived hell since my early days in this world and I am not afraid of anything. Even my inner demons are now behaving themselves and dress up for dinner when I tell them to. I am my own inner father and mother and I've got all the love and gratitude of the world inside me.

 

Okay but I would like to O with real people in do time, so I’m going to have realistic goals by saying I’m just no P and M. It’s a life battle for me not just a short term one. Let’s see if my enemies can have a sit down and come to turns with that @MASTER MONK @T H A N O S the titan

 

Damn this battle between you too is hilarous.
The whole earth is trembling, mountains being destroyed with such power of this battle, many corpses appearing, the smell of blood is already as normal as the smell of the smoke of the fire of darkness summoned by @Pedro.lives , will @MASTER MONK be able to stop this evil force once and for all or will he be killed during this complete destruction? Can his power of meditation and love put an end to it? Find out in the next episode of Monk Boi Z.

 

Hahahaah so orginal