I (20) and this girl (19) I really like

Wow, she sounds like a really great girl to talk to. Having an experience like that I think you shouldn't be afraid to just ask her about her feelings, understand what you are to each other and just tell her what you feel and what you want. You've already had what sounds like a very vulnerable and honest experience with her, I'm sure she'd be open to talking about your relationship with each other and your feelings. Getting it out there by talking to her again and getting out of your head would be the way to go in my opinion.

 

lucky guy haha. That sounds like an awesome experience. Why would she reject you. You guys had an incredible time together. Of course she would be thinking a lot about you too.

My only concern is that if she goes clubbing often, then she might be doing similar with other guys and i feel like since you said she is good at manipulating, she seems to be not the type of woman to stay committed to you. But idk, this is just my thoughts based on what you describe.

ask her how she’s feeling

I’m not sure why you feel sad or paralyzed. You haven’t “lost her” because you have her number right?

 

If she's had sex with you after one night of clubbing, shes probably have sex with other dudes after one night of clubbing. My opinion, not wife material, don't waste your time.

 

Respectfully disagree.

IMHO, that’s like saying “a porn addict (recovered or not) isn’t husband material, don’t waste your time.”

Concur with @Eternal Fire

 

So what?

If you’re being stupid, it will be a learning experience. Gotta learn how to cope with negative emotions in a healthy manner regardless. If not this situation, it will be another. Because wherever you go, there you are.

And...if you’re not being stupid...

 

You may have a point, but at least not because of what you said. If she's had sex with you after one night of clubbing, then you've had sex with her after one night of clubbing. What are you then? What you wrote implies that the op is not relationship material for anybody he should respect.

Having this kind of personal opinion is fine, I guess, but perhaps you wanted to say something else.

 

Good point. I guess if OP doesn't mind getting into an open relationship or doesn't care if she sleeps with other people or vise versa then i guess it doesn't matter. Personally i wouldn't want to develop feelings for someone who i know is banging other dudes on a nightly basis, I also think OP is the same considering he wrote: "Furthermore, she went out last night whereas I stayed in. I would be lying to myself if I wouldn't admit to being extremely jealous. I am slowly losing my mind."

I've been through that and it's the worse feeling ever. If he wants to truly find a women who will focus on him only and love him in an exclusive way, then he needs to find a girl who lives her life in an exclusive way. Night club girls are a lot of fun, but you can't really go the distance with them.

 

Those are not really the same thing. someone masturbating isn't the same as someone having sex with other people. If you caught your significant other masturbating versus having an affair, there would be two completely separate reactions. Masturbating is just a physical stimulus to get off at the moment, however sex is much deeper then that. It's an extremely intimate act between two people. She's giving her own body to the person she's sleeping with. Not just her body, but her own being.

If OP is looking for someone to build an intimate connection with, he might be shooting himself in the foot with trying to build an intimate connection with someone who builds intimate connections with a bunch of other dudes. I've been through that myself and i would heavily advise against it.

 

I know what you mean. I just meant that, rather than focusing on what's wrong with the other person, one should think why I would need sex from a stranger in general.

 

most likely horniness