Hello my friends, I have been an addict for about 11 years. Now i have a streak of 2 weeks long without PMO. i am feeling very happy especially that i had an urge for two successive days and i passed it. Do you think it is a good idea to reward myself with some issue for making this achievment? Also do you think it is a good idea to promise myself with a reward if i achieved X no. of days without PMO?
Nop, you should not be forced to do it anyways. It should be the opposite, if you failed just chill and live life
I didn't mean to reward myself by breaking the streak, it meant for me like have dinner in a restaurant, going on vacation with some friends, playing some poker or snooker. Not bad issue reward. I am afraid of keeping the hard mood without any sense of relief
I started commiting not to PMO this early year, but failed in the end of january. I try again this month, and if i successfully make it to day 30 i will buy myself double-box pizza. i like it so much but i am broke, i couldn't afford it like everyday so yea that's gonna worth it lmao.
I will do this if i reach a month streak and may add coca-cola, last three years i lost 60 k.g of my weight, but no problem with such reward That is my daily routine, i go to gym 5 times a week, some change is not bad
I think it's a good idea to reward yourself in healthy ways. That should not include bingeing on something, like overeating your favorite food once you've done some good streak. Just like with porn, bingeing is something which causes the sensitization of particular dopamine-related neural paths in our brains, which is basically what makes us addicted. Moderation is a good thing, you should apply it to your rewards too. Also, I'm against punishing yourself for relapses. We already harm ourselves when we relapse, and there's no need to make it worse. One thing I did during one of my previous attempts was setting a condition that for each time I relapse, I'd have to go on a date (not looking for sex, just improving my social skills). This was a kind of punishment because I'm scared of doing that, but at the same time, it was kind of a reward, but in the sense of "for each unhealthy thing I do, I have to do one healthy thing."
Of course, it is great to reward yourself for doing good streaks. But with something reasonable..restaurant sounds cool! The body serves us much better when we reward it with something. To work on a delayed gratification (NO! thank you very much ) If you go too much on delayed gratification you can start to hate yourself as this happened to me. I was going on delayed gratification for 2 years. It will take a long time to connect back to myself and love myself and reward myself as I hate myself as fuck.
Yes it's like a perfect diet ties no such thing have a good dinner enjoy and tell yourself that in two weeks I can do it again if I'm clean