Porn and Loneliness

Go out and meet someone. I know that's easy to write, but it worth it to find the right one. Porn girls are fake and will never really share you life with you. All the best to you.

 

As a very shy person and after some rejects from girls, I started to meet them through the internet and chat with them. That made more comfortable because I am shy, and it was easier to write than to talk. I finally met a wonderful woman, and we end un marrying.

Even before we end up meeting up in person and all, I felt so much better and less lonely chatting with her.

Of course it is probably better to meet someone in person. But I write this for you and others to consider. Online romance is possible!

Good luck bro.

 

I think you are 100% correct. I have quit porn for almost 6 months now and I have noticed insanely, I have almost no loneliness whatsoever since quitting. I think it is that thing its like - if you look at and fantasize about a nice car all the time, every day, you will naturally feel that it is missing from your life. It is the same with porn. And yeah get rid of it and you will feel more naturally inclined to talk to and meet women. You can do it son.

 

Thank you for that post sir! Very happy you are feeling better. I am currently in two months hard mode and having a lot of self consciousness and loneliness symptoms. I have been feeling better now than two months ago for sure. The symptoms I am talking about, are you familiar with them and how did you start to feel after 60 days. I also wanted to ask if my rushing to have a relationship is bad because I am having theee symptoms...

 

Wouldn't you feel lonelier knowing that you sit in front of a screen and use images and videos of women who you will never even see in real life faking sexual pleasure as a placebo?

 

Yes, it is way better meeting real girls. Its worth falling on your face a few times and failing until you get smoother with your approach.

 

I'm in the same boat with the p subs. I scrubbed my phone and laptop completely of the dating apps. I might be projecting a little but do you want to learn to dance? They got salsa happy hours all the time. That might be a good place to meet people? There are also free meetups. Or maybe we stop looking and that's when the girl shows up? The last idea sounds like a long shot lol.

 

Honestly I reckon after 70 days I just started feeling amazing but since then I've kind of stabilised. A lot of nofap is that it just makes you appreciate your own willpower and self control, but I think as it gets easier the positive feeling you get from having willpower goes away a bit cause it's easier. But yeah no loneliness at all from maybe like 70 days around? Ive been pretty busy with a lot of shit in life tho so it would depend, if you're too idle you might get lonely.

Also hell yes to the salsa dancing!! Anyone who does that has my respect, it is one of my life goals to start that. Such a positive thing to do I will get some beginner lessons first tho before going to a big Meetup of that I think haha

 

I'm single and struggle with loneliness but I don't see PMO as any solution to that problem in the least; it takes the hell of isolation and amplifies it.

 

Thanks man! I just gauging how others feel as well along my timeline. I do keep busy with yoga, working out, and I believe that reading will help in a big Way to get the mind rewired. What other things are you doing to stay busy...??

 

You have to get out and break the routine, its easy to say but the comfort zone is addictive as a drug is.

If you can do it the benefit will be long wasting, but you have to keep up the effort for the rest of your life in order to dont fall into the bad routine again.

Be strong and find help and support here when you need

 

I haven't mustered up the courage to go to one of dance ones myself but I am warming up to some meet ups where a tour guide takes the group to some museums.

Hey man nice! Good luck and enjoy learning something new!

 

@SuperFurryThing that sounds awesome man, a great environment to talk to people

@BigOne79 I go running a lot on top of meditation and music and try to get out of the house a fair bit

 

Self-improvement?