Another shameful reset by my name. Well, as you can see, this strategy of making teams is useless for my recovery since getting the first 2 strikes. I'm not responsible enough to have a 'accountability' partner, this is just not happening. After the first 2 strikes I'm way more unmotivated than when starting the challenge because my main goal was to have no strikes. And it is with this reset report, that I admit, I preffer another way of recovering from my PMO Addiction, rather than a pressure chamber that I feel like in here. I'm leaving the challenge, @Future role model can have my spot with my teammate @Blossom. I wish that all of you beautiful souls in here win the battle agains't PMO, I'm out! thanks @Desperate_Warrior for creating the amazing idea and my teammate @Blossom for helping me get throught the first steps! Bye bye!
You are still under impression of relapse, give yourself some time and think about everything again. Three relapses aren't that bed, I have 5 of them. I'm sure your partner @Blossom would want you to stay. Just hear me out. Take a short break from everything, clear your mind, and tomorrow make a decision. Fehr left and he wanted to come back, it can happen to you too.
@Future role model is right. Think about it more. @Lyfe I'm probably not the most qualified to be giving advice since I've never been on a super long streak. I'm only speaking from experience of continuous failure. Relying only on motivation wont get you to your desired destination. I said this a few days ago; The motivation was super high for all of us at the beginning of this challenge. It's not as high right now, and that's just inevitable. It is willpower and discipline that will break us free from PMO, not motivation. Also, in my opinion, the way you're going about this is wrong. It's good you were striving for zero strikes. We all were. But you turned it into an expectation, and set yourself with a mentality that in the event you do get a strike, you failed in the challenge. This mentality causes more relapses. Dont dwell on the past, and dont look into the future. Instead, focus on TODAY. Fight PMO TODAY. Win the battle TODAY. (Stealing some advice from @JJackson )
Comeone bro, don't quit.. There isn't any "pressure chambmer in here", I don't care about your relapses so much as long as it helps you to improve yourself. I said it a thousand times, you have nothing to be ashamed of, we are here on the same boat with you!
First off Thanks for being honest because that is key here. You don't have to leave the challenge and you don't need to feel a huge amount of pressure to be perfect.support,forgiveness and slow gradual progress are key here. I hope you will think this over but if you wish to leave then you have the right to do so. So I ask you this and ask that you will respond hereo you want to leave the challenge?
The goal isn't 'no strikes,' mate, it's growth, and for growth, you don't need motivation. If you choose to leave, we'll respect that decision, but frankly, you don't have to! Let the challenge help you, let us offer some support. I think you owe to your partner to keep trying, but whatever you decide, you have our 100% support. A note to everyone: 'Recovery is not about the number of days on your counter, but how you live those days.' Relapses are nothing more than an opportunity to revise what's going wrong. They are not a source of shame. Quality > Quantity Progress > Perfection Discipline > Willpower
The time has come, DW. I'm leaving on the 18th. I'll try and secure a wifi connection to check in, but there is no guarantee, so don't disqualify us. Even if I do find a connection, I'm going underground for the most part. Stay strong and listen to your own advice: hold the line. I'll miss you guys, good luck to all the teams, and say 'hello' to the NoFap era.
Sorry @IGY. Another strike for Team Cashew Butter... I'm disappointed with myself, I know that I can do much better than this. I had unchaste thoughts in my head, but instead of pushing them away as I know I should, I continued to linger on the thoughts. Some time later a questionable video showed up as suggested on YouTube, and of course I was stupid enough to click on it. This led to me checking additional psubs and masturbating... I'm disappointed that I made this mistake, I know that I can handle these situations. I had many opportunities to back off and stop what I was going, but I continued. It was some time ago I fell for psubs, and with my one year without porn on the horizon it's frightening that I fell for psubs again. Please don't leave... As everyone else has said, it isn't supposed to be a pressure chamber. It isn't supposed to be all about getting a streak. I think the vast majority of people on this forum agree with that. It is about changing patterns in your life and learn from your mistakes. Having the opportunity to be accountable for other people helps, at least me, by giving additional motivation to avoid PMO. But what's more important is to be able to have someone to talk to, and to learn together from mistakes. To support and help each other. The only real competition here is against PMO. We are all at different places in our journey against PMO, don't feel bad or unworthy this challenge because of your resets.
Thanks for your message my team buddy. The thing that stood out to me was the phrase above. That is a tremendous achievement and I wish you well as you continue to avoid pornography like the plague. Of course, there are always things around that are not porn as such, yet may cause arousal. I have fallen so many times in that way. So, I empathise. Let's keep moving forwards, extolling the awesomeness of cashews!
I don't know, man I feel that each day I'm getting closer to my breaking point on NoFap.. It's not depression or anything like that, actually, I feel really good and energized but it's the need to M.. that kills me Thanks for asking btw