27 YO in a desperate need of help me.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by MO2790, Jul 7, 2018.

  1. MO2790

    MO2790 New Fapstronaut

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    I have been a porn addict on/off for more than 10 years. It has been a struggle. I feel ashamed of myself and desperate and vulnerable. I want a clean life.
    I do not know why I did this to myself or how, I always keep asking myself could I have changed any thing had I know my situation at the moment this is a difficult question.
    I hope that one day I could wake up go to work normally and not get back home a start this bad habit.
    I have been fired from my job due to the fact I was not concentrating in it, in fact I could not concentrate because all day long been in porn sites how could I work.
    I hope that I change. I hope.
    thanks
     
  2. spaces

    spaces Fapstronaut

    Welcome to nofap . :emoji_grinning: i'm sure you will leave these habits behind you and change . It takes time but its possible . Use the challenges in these forums they really help . Also try to get out and interact with more people, it does not matter where you are in life , you can always choose to be happy staying exactly where you are now.
     
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  3. drac16

    drac16 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for coming to NoFap. We have a history of success here at NoFap. Lots of people are being set free from pornography.
     
  4. adept

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    It's a tough journey. I'm in the same position as you are I guess, I've been on this addiction for about 13 years. Tried many ways but failed. Hope you find this web useful and find your way to quit PMO for good and start a new life.
     
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  5. MO2790

    MO2790 New Fapstronaut

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    thanks guys
     
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  6. Khandany

    Khandany Fapstronaut

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    Bro just take a deep breath and ask Ur inner self where I m going ...the route which u had choose earlier I,e porn and masturbation is leading to self destruction..
    Bro remember what r the best days u can leave without PM..what can u acheive without PM...
    Our brain is literally addicted to PM..which is very very hard to come out but not impossible...it makes u feel guilty, emotional, depressed,fear, it's like only goal in our life is PM that's it..
    U have to be brave men and a fighter.u should not give up at any cost .PM always be at Ur doorstep knocking everytime u r upset,happy ..whatever maybe the condition,urge.every time u have to beat and knock down PM.
    Stay away from everything ,source friends,which will lead to PM.make a list of such things.
    Make a big wall poster about ur goal and what u want to achieve in ur life...paste it in Ur room.. everytime PM is heavy on u..just sit and think by looking at that wall post..just think what if I fail today by doing PM..
    Make friends who help u in giving up porn and masturbation..
    Last but very very very important thing..
    you have to change ur mind, attitude and urself.v just encourage u but It is with u to fight or give up...all the best just enjoy the journey of giving up PM.
    Forget the past and don't wary about future just live in present...one day at a time with no no porn and masturbation

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  7. VirtualHamad

    VirtualHamad New Fapstronaut

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    Our stories are quite the same ..... *High Five*
     
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  8. thenext15yrs

    thenext15yrs Fapstronaut

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    Hey @MO2790 I'm really new on here too! I've been in this PMO vicious cycle crap for 15 years. What I am learning is that there is some really deep internal stuff going on, a little more than say people who are dealing with it for about 2-3 years for example.

    It requires serious work and dedication - to start this internal self-work and self-healing journey but we are worth it. I know that I don't know you but I know this addiction all too well, and no one should have to live through it.

    But you are in the right place! You have already started to help yourself healing and recovering. Continue learning about yourself and creating time to sit down and meditate and/or journal everyday or twice a day. It sounds silly, but I've started doing that the last few weeks and have an unbelievable clarity to my problems (for me its not just PMO, its no self-love, isloation, depression). I also have an amazing motivation like I've never had before. Its hard starting out, but thats the problem, at least for me, is that we don't make time for our self, to do self-work. But after a few days of learning how to meditate, practicing mindfulness and repeating some mantras, my mind is focused on "this is what I'm doing now" this is "my work" and "nothing is going to stop my healing". Good habits are forming SO, what I'm trying to say is that you can change, and you can change very quickly if I can. And I hope you are ready to put the work in, because you deserve it!!
     
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  9. dewdd1

    dewdd1 New Fapstronaut

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    Good Job My Friend:d
     
  10. 2dayz_iz_2long

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    Welcome bro!

    I related to your story man. I was watching porn for hours on end every day. My last porn bender was 8 hrs on and off. I lost my job too because I couldn't concentrate and i was constantly tired,irritable and depressed.
    It was a vicious cycle because my life was miserable because of porn, and to fix it I'd watch more porn. Nightmare. I knew I had a problem a while ago and have made multiple attempts to quit. But I'd always go back no matter how hard I tried.
    I've spend a lot of these last two weeks off work researching the shit out of the disease of porn addiction. I've been exercizing everyday, eating healthy writing in my journal and practicing piano every day . I also saw my mum and few times. I've been crying a lot and it's great to feel something. Porn slowly killed my emotions and eventually I became a pathetic, sweating, masturbating machine. Now I've enrolled in study for 6 months something I'm passionate about, which is music.
    I hope you've got enough motivation to visualize a better life for yourself my friend, and take steps to move forward toward where you wanna be. Send us a msg anytime