Day 17

ceetee9559 · Jan 16, 2018

Hello NoFap community,

I must say I truly appreciate this site. It has made an absolute difference in augmenting my mental approach to sexuality. I was constantly impatient, angry and even dissatisfied in all of my previous relationships with women.

It's as if after I finally f***ed them; I no longer could feel satisfied. I learned now on day 17; I needed to mature, and I did serious damage to my expectations of sex. This was caused by a porn/masturbation addiction.

I would crush on women that were hot to me, but on the inside were extremely shallow, but deep down; I knew they'd never want me. There is someone for you out there no matter what. I was ignoring ladies that really liked me. I was more interested in watching porn.

The thing is, it's all about being a good person. Nobody is perfect. Porn is too perfect, to the point of being fictional. I realized this on day 17. I also realized if I want a lady who looks like the women I was masturbating to; I needed to be a better man.

This meant not being shallow, not being a douche and when I meet that special lady; I need to man up and not be selfish. These are things I wouldn't have even said the last time I orgasmed (December 28th).

I don't plan to masturbate possibly again. You hear, "It's normal, it's good for your prostate!" Please. It sets a false precedent. Poor regrettably made me think, "I f***ed her, who is next?" If you're interested in that lifestyle, then don't read further; however, when I was behaving that way - I truly was not interested in that.

It is day 17 and I want to treat a lady right. I want to get married and have children. I can't do that if I expect perfection and if I chase only after ejaculating. The past two weeks I've noticed that I'm being a lot more sensitive since I've decided to be apart of NoFap.

I want to be even more of a feminist. I want to finish my novel, finish school and find a better job! I am listening to women in my life more and being a man that gives them that comfort of someone empathizing. This truly is a reboot and it feels better than any masturbation experience I've ever had. This site is creating a paradigm shift.

I'd love to hear your experiences! Let's all become more awesome together, and God bless you. Thank you for reading if you did!

Best,

Christopher.

Ferdinand5 · Jan 16, 2018

Good story to share, bro. I love how you grow from this experience. God bless you too

Septimus · Jan 16, 2018

Welcome @Christopher Turley, I'm glad you're here. Congrats on 17 days! Keep coming back.

Deleted Account · Jan 16, 2018

Christopher Turley said: ↑

I'd love to hear your experiences!
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Hey @Christopher Turley ,

There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope).

Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary.

1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program.

2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery.

Learn the NoFap Program
The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used.

They are:

Download the free Getting Started guide.

Set up a PMO-Counter Badge. More info here!

Basic introduction to the science of porn addiction!

Basic information about rebooting and how our challenges can help you recover from PMO. This is the most important page to read. If you only can read one page, read this one.

About NoFap.

Watch this video - it is an epic intro resource if you want to get particular details about porn addiction and how it changes how your brain works.

This is a good light-weight video about porn addiction.

Read through the journal sections and see what other rebooters have experienced. It is good to know what to expect, otherwise the "chaser effect", "the surge", or the "flatline" might throw you off.

If you come across vocabulary that you can't understand, check out our rebooting glossary of terms.

GET ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR HABITS! Sign up for a peer accountability partner. Otherwise if you want more professional-hosted solutions, check out NoFap Premium or Reboot Camp. If you can afford to invest in yourself, these are great options.

You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum.

Get Involved with the Community
The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others.

I'm nobody important around here. Just a normal user with no magic powers.

But, I can:

Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH

Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles

Pick a forum and make sure evvery post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group.

Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread.

Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

- L

PS - Think of pmo like a wolf. Stay near the center of the group with the winners and the wolf has a more difficult time finding you. But, stray near the edges of the community and the wolf can pick you off.

Deleted Account · Jan 16, 2018

For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2fellowship. Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles:

@2525
@weddingnails
@PatrickR
@Beamer
@Arohamystic
@MLMVSS
@Rising Sun !!
@Ready to be healthy
@Brahmacharin
@Struggle Bug
@tet2vd
@Satchi
@BigDawg913
@zakes
@LilD
@kropo82
@DavidGibson
@SteelshoT
@Jewels
@reystronaut

Take a look at who they are exchanging messages. You will find more profiles.

* L

Deleted Account · Jan 16, 2018

One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals.

I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

@Sunshadow Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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@Tomoya Okazaki Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/
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@2525 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/150280/
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@Visor Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
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@Dragonnlife Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/136148
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@weddingnails Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143418/
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@Struggle Bug Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/141911/
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@BigDawg913 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/
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@kropo82 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/78164/
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@tet2vd Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144513
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@Protagoras Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/109842/
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There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

* L

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