Christian Guy With Same Sex Attraction

Welcome. What's your plan to replace acting out?

 

Welcome. Keep going right path!

 

Welcome, you will find a lot of encouragement on this site to help you deal with SSA and porn addiction. We are all in this together.

 

Buddy, if you're gay, be gay. Don't be ashamed of it because you're Christian. I mean, they're your beliefs, but I would think if God really loved you, he wouldn't care either way.

 

I'm just curious OP, what do you think caused your same sex attraction?

 

Welcome brother. I have had many friends who sturggle wih the same thing. If i had to give some advice it would be to keep fighting it man. We are human and we are no perfect. The road to recovery is a hard one that is full of hard times but in the end it is worth it!

 

I agree with this, you are right, however there are some heterosexual men on here that got into gay P as just another manifestation of seeking novelty and do not feel it translates to their actual sexual orientation. There are many on here who could explain it better than me but OP should understand where his situation falls.

 

Bu if the OP finds it as something he doesn’t want, then he does not want it. I would say do what ypu think is best OP, if you ate Christian and you find that to be something you dont want to be than start to put things in place to change it. However at the end of the day, avoid the p!

 

Prayers. Same here...but I think it was caused by porn and by having a short dick.

 

God already loves him. The man has a same sex attraction and just stated clearly that he doesnt have an interest in living that way. Youre telling the guy how to live like you know whats best for him. That isnt your place.

 

God has loved you all of your life regardless but I think its great that you want to honor God through obedience. I'll def be keeping you in my prayers.

 

Welcome to the Nofap community.
The NO PMO journey will not be easy but worth the effort.
Your goal is to not view porn or act out. Your goal is not to change your sexual orientation. That’s fine.

Perfect answer. Thanks.

Please don’t misinterpret the OP”s words only because you are obviously homophobic. God does not judge him but he loves him not matter which sexual orientation he has. It’s fine to be straight, it’s fine to be straight, it’s fine to be bi. Just be human.

 

Guys stop with the homophobia arugment.


I hold to a Christian perspective, and in that perspective homosexuality is not a part of God’s plan. But we as sinners have all fallen short of the glory of God. God sent His Son to help build a way for us to fix that. So wheather that is masterbating, porn, lust, lying, stealing, homosexuality or whatever its not apart of God’s orginal plan.

But that said the beauty of that plan is that we all can find redemption and with God and perseverance we can overcome this stuff. So if he has a sturggle with it then its a struggle to him. Then sop arguing about wheither or not someone is homophonic or whether he should come out as gay or what have yu.

Lets be here to support or pray for someone who has the same struggle as all of us.

OP, Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.

We are here for you!


As far as overcoming it, i found this link and it has really helped me!

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/in-case-you-didnt-know.84619/

Here are some of the good i took away from it

Everything ain't for everybody and if something doesn't work for you or you don't agree with it... don't do it, continue reading until you find something that does.

Read the list on there, and see if you can start to come up with some kind if action plan to start to overcome this. A great start to overcoming it was to make an account here, ans to start your journey here. Next start to put in action plan. Without a direction there is no path.

I would love for you to start walking in a direction to start overcoming this!

- Dustbin

 

You remind me of my old friend. He was a Buddhist monk. He was also homosexual. He later converted to Christianity. I was surprised when he told me he didn't want to live life as a homosexual. I asked him "Then aren't you living your life in denial of who you are?".

He told me, "When serve a master you live life for them, not for yourself. Jesus said to take up your cross, and follow me. When you serve your new master the old you passes away and all others whom you used to follow and serve also passes away. The law of your new master is the law you must follow".

Monks practice celibacy and self control, a thing that many Christians today lack. In this day and age, we are taught to follow ourselves and what we want, that instant gratification is the way to happiness. That's why many of us have fallen deep into such a mess. I learned that just because you "feel" like something or are "attracted" to something, you don't have to give in and follow it. You don't have to let it control your world.

So if you're Christian and gay, you can choose not to live or be apart of gay lifestyle to serve your God.

 

He probably doesn't have an interest in living that way because most Christians believe homosexuality is wrong. I'm just saying he shouldn't be ashamed of it. I'm not telling him to do anything.

 

Yeah, I figured he was talking about real life. If he's just watching gay porn, he might just have a porn problem. Surprisingly, I've read of a lot of straight guys who say they watch gay porn.

 

Your first problem is simple in principle, don't watch it. I recommend using the Nofap tracker because each day is a good morale booster.

As for your second issue, don't worry about your homosexuality. Whether you view it as a sin or not, know that without homosexual christians that the priesthood would be decimated. Think on this, if God made you gay, who's to blame?

 

Hey Ben, just wanted to say I'm praying for you man...struggling to align your sexual orientation with your faith is probably one of the most difficult trials a man/woman will ever have to face. I definitely do not know the answer to your struggle, but I'll see if I can provide some insight.

Here in my country, there are 3 Christian views on homosexuality. FYI these may not be the only 3 views, I'm just providing black/grey/white views on the issue, many people lie in between these views, it's ultimately up to God to decide what is right, and ultimately up to you to decide what you'll align to.

1. Homosexuals are evil, homosexual acts are downright condemned in the Bible and hence are unforgivable sins. Homosexuals go to hell. Homosexuality is a choice.
2. God made man and woman to be together. It is unnatural to go against this natural order, hence committing acts of homosexuality is equivalent to sin. However, this would be the case for any other sin, as all sins are equal in God's eyes. Furthermore, being homosexual is not a sin, it is the act of homosexuality that is a sin. You are not barred from heaven due to your sexual orientation, as our salvation was confirmed by Jesus's sacrifice on the cross, just as I am struggling with a PMO addiction, you will be struggling with your sexuality. In God's eyes, we are in similar (if not the same) boats.
3. God made humans to not be lonely. Go fall in love and get married. We are all sinners anyway. Jesus loves us all. Homosexuality isn't a choice.

As you can kinda see, I align myself more towards the second view, I know of gay people who prayed and believed and they eventually changed. One of them is a teacher with a happy family. I do not know if being homosexual is by choice or out of someone's control, but I do believe that with determination and faith you will persevere. Keep fighting, God always rewards those who make the effort in heaven if not on Earth.

God Bless!

 

@Benjamin367, I'm glad you're here. I'm same-sex attracted too, as are many here. And I do not wish, nor do I seek, to act on these feelings. I am not married. I am Catholic, if that matters. If I can do anything, let me know.

There are others here who have the same purpose you expressed, so you aren't alone.