https://www.xxxchurch.com/men/9-reasons-men-should-stay-away-from-porn.html This got sent to my hubs a week after DDAY . I still once and awhile send this one as a reminder tool
Ya being vulnerable is “manly” . Especially in a commited relationship there is nothing more attractive than someone completely letting their emotions show .
So if it's manly if a woman is vulnerable does she stop being feminine? I think most of what is said in the article is good but I object to the term manly. Such terms encourage there to be no vulnerablity I think. To paraphase Brené Brown many women want men to be vulnerable, but when they are they want them to stop. It seems to me most women play this weird game of wanting vulnerablity but when given it they don't want it. It seems to me this confusion over vulnerability comes from the idea of what it means to be manly.
When I was much younger and not wanting a serious relationship, yes someone too vulnerable was a turn off to ME , but I think that had more to do with what I was looking for . NOW , in a looooonnngggg relationship I expect nothing but true vulnerable because that’s exactly what I give . All it is is that old saying “ real men cry “ or shouldn’t be afraid to , or whatever