I shot a lot of pictures and videos with my ex and present girlfriend. Mainly just nude photography, but also porn. It is extremely hard for me to erase it, as this are actually my memories. (not to mention not that bad as well) i feel that i will regret it in like 20 years time if i erase it for good. I felt sorry for people that do not have sexy erotic, nude pictures of themselves. I found them boring. But there is also another side of the coin. I get aroused by watching my personal porn material. I watched till recently like 30% internet porn and 70% self made porn. It feels that it can not be as severe but actually it is the same thing. I can not control the urge at the end. Maybe it is better than watching strangers having sex, but for me it is still weird. I still can not imagine erasing it. It is like my life. So what should one do with his own erotic photos and videos? It is like smashing mirrors in his own house.
Porn is porn. If you're trying to beat a porn addiction, you're going to have to adopt a zero-tolerance approach. It's not easy for sure, but as long as you have that stash you'll always be tempted to go back to it. It's also dangerous to keep it, because you're setting a precedent for 'good' porn and 'bad' porn. Sooner or later, you'll start justifying more and more 'good' porn and you'll find it extremely difficult to reboot. You even said it yourself, you can't control yourself when you view it, so why torture yourself with it?
Thanks Jen. I will archive it and decrypt it and put on a disk and leave it on an attic. So it would be extremely difficult to watch it. Itf that doesn't work, I will delete the not so good part of the good porn. Step by step.
It's really up to you. I would totallly delete the ones with your ex girlfriends but it your current one likes to watch then you might keep it only for when you have sex, but that's potentially dangerous.
I agree with what's been said ... the porn you shot with your ex needs to be deleted as soon as possible. You're no longer in a relationship with her, so you have no right to keep those images unless you have her direct permission (and even then, if you're trying to quit porn, you're just making relapses inevitable). I had a partner where we shared hundreds of pics and videos with eachother. But I've deleted all of them. Yes, it was really hard. Yes, I kicked myself the next day and wished I had them all back. But it was the right thing to do. As far as your current girlfriend goes--I think making it very hard to view is a good first step. But if you start finding yourself going to the attic every day to take a peek, you need to get rid of it.
Ask yourself this question: What would you rather do? Having real sex with your girlfriend or watching yourself having sex with your girlfriend and masturbating to it? I think you know the answer my friend. But thanks for asking that question. I also have some images of my girlfriend and me having sex. And although I never look at them, thinking about your question made me realize that it would be better to delete them.