Has anyone going through addiction recovery suffered with extreme self hatred / self loathing as they recovered? How did you overcome this defect of character? Thank you.
For me it just took time and doing my best to improve what I hated about myself during recovery (and still trying to keep at it). For example, I'm overweight, so I worked hard to find a dietary plan that I was comfortable with, and with time I'm starting to see results. I'm very shy, so I started opening my eyes and looking for chances to talk to people a little more. And so forth. Little by little, I'm starting to see improvements and starting to feel better about myself and about life in general. Prayer also helps a lot.
Yeah! Instead of looking (staring) at myself I might look elsewhere: to God (or equivalent), other people, art, science, my immediate surroundings, the environment at large...
I think acceptance and embracing things that you can not change. Easier said than done, but that's what I am working on. Self-loathing comes and goes in waves. Have you looked into inner child work?
By reminding you: _it's all by design to keep you miserable _you're in a temporary fallen weak flesh _you went through your own unfair circumstances _you decided to get better despite peer pressure _tons of people like you exist in the world _exceeding blessings are in store for you
Help others. Do the best that you can to help other people.. The most efficient way to get rid of self hatred. Dont trust me ? Try first and then tell me how it feels.