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    Mr Rn publicPublic scheduleApr 4, 2019
    Hi Everyone,

    I am new to this site and i've been inspired by all the comments that tell me there is a way out. For real, living a life surrendering to your fetish is terrible for your productivity and can have you feeling guilty over and over. I personally have gone into the trap of watching SP after straight porn got too "boring" for me.

    Now here is my question,

    This is my first time starting, so i know i'm very prone to making errors and relapsing. I was wondering, after this "90 day" period of NoFap, could i be able to get back into straight PMO? [I am straight] Would i fall into the same trap again? In my eyes, it seems (fapping) such a dreadful thing to get rid of from your life completely. I would just like to recover from these triggers that are put into my mind and go back to my normal self.
    I've also put the image that i am a "beta male" in my brain. I personally feel that in general, i'm socially capable, but my first interaction with porn was me being under a woman, i don't know how to tell myself i am an alpha male, but i would really like myself to believe that i am one.

    Thank you for reading and i hope you're all staying strong :).
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    Maninsearchofasoul
    If you started PMO again, yes, you would fall into the same trap. Masturbating is not all that bad, it's porn that is. Also if you want to feel more masculine then I would just start doing masculine activities and hanging out with masculine people. If you come in with humility and truly ask for these people
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    Maninsearchofasoul
    's comments, then you will find they are extremely nice people and not the type of people society stereotypes them to be. And I absolutely support any attempt to find more masculine hobbies. It is a great way to deal with this problem
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    aliceal
    Pornografia não é natural. É normal você pensar que sua vida irá ser sem graça sem ela, mas será o contrário, será muito melhor. O efeito recompensa de seu cérebro está bagunçado é só vício que importa no momento, eu sei bem como é isso.
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    aliceal
    E outra, não quer dizer que você precisa ser convencional na hora de fazer sexo, fantasiar e brincar é normal (até ser dominado por mulher é legal). Mas tudo tem limite ! E a pornografia pela escalação está fazendo você ultrapassar esse limite. Esqueça a pornografia! Já vou avisando o primeiro mês será um dos piores, pois sentirá irritabilidade e vários outros efeitos da abstinência. Abraço e boa sorte. Tu é aquilo que você acredita ser !
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    mychoppagoodwill
    hey man, in my experience, it can be a trap to try and recover from the sissy fetish by arguing with yourself about masculinity. if you can successfully convince yourself of your manhood and move past this by lifting weights and drinking beer, more power to you! but for me, trying to pressure myself into “more masculinity” only resulted in more tension, more arguing and more insecurities, worsening TOCD, and what not. simply put, i wanted to be masculine, but when it came down to the wire, my lymbic system wanted me to be well you know what.
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    mychoppagoodwill
    for me, there’s quite a bit of subconscious, deep insecurity i have about my masculinity, which is fine! a lot of males experience this. but, given that my perception of my masculinity is kind of filled with fear and anxiety, (probably has something to do with the sissy addiction), it’s NOT a solid foundation for recovery.
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    mychoppagoodwill more_vert
    mychoppagoodwill
    in fact, i would argue that my perceptions, and probably other guys also, about my masculinity is the foundation for my SP addiction, and therefore probably shouldn’t be used as the foundation for my recovery. i’ve found for me, there’s a lot more power in telling myself not to relapse because NEED TO HEAL and because i AM WORTH A LIFE FREE OF SHAME AND ADDICTION and because i deserve a REAL PARTNER and REAL LOVE. once again, do what works for you, and you got this!
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    SLAA1 more_vert
    SLAA1
    NEVERMIND this notion of can I watch straight porn if I have 90 days off sP - for me, I’m laying off ALL porn and thus retraining my brain. Get the book, “Your Brain on Porn” and read it, especially ppgs 105-145. Im extraordinarily happy with the results. I’m closer to my GF, am having better sex, and feel really good about myself. I’m almost at five months. I’ve had a thousand Day Ones but so far, so good!
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