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Post published by Aleza
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I am a 16 year old boy who is trying to be a good Christian and eliminate bad habits, is it possible I avoid masturbation at my age? I'm trying but it's really hard, sometimes I wonder if I'm doing the right thing
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Aleza
yes, I have a computer that my parents control and it is also in the living room. and then I have my smartphone that I was given for Christmas when I was 15 with a promise to use it well. they check it every month but for almost a year when I'm in the bathroom I do it and then I cancel history and they don't notice it, I know what I'm wrong and I promised I won't do it again, I'm a good boy, I swear, I want just get better
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frogs2345
Aleza, anyone can beat this, and you starting early helps. Try to cut out youtube. It is a trigger for a lot of people and tends to flood normal, good content with malicious and pornographic content. Ask your parents for some books to read instead of using your phone. They don't have to be on porn addiction, but it could be stuff that you enjoy. The Bible says removing demons without filling the hole with something else results in more demons coming in. As you unlearn this habit, you need to learn new ones to replace it that glorify God.
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miXhal
Greetings, brother! Great that you want to do something about it! It is indeed possible (and even needed). I´ll just add to the urges: urges won´t stop. That is bad approach and it´s not gonna take you anywhere. I know that, I am on 230+ days and urges still show up from time to time. It is not about making urges stop, but about being able to deal with them. Trust the Lord, let Him help you!
God bless.
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Tao Jones
@Aleza You need to have that phone monitored or give it up. You have broken your promise to use it wisely and well, and you must make this right. To do otherwise is to lie to those who gave you this gift. Learn now to do the hard thing. There are many other such decisions ahead of you.
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Tao Jones
The truth is that you are not a good boy. None of us are. That is why we so desperately need Jesus. Righteousness is found only in him. Our performance will never be perfect and only he can give us the new hearts we need to live his kind of life. Run to him for forgiveness, move toward greater accountability in areas where you struggle, and do not continue to live in hiddenness and secrecy about your PMO. This is what give it power. We must expose these secret sins to the daylight if we are to break free.
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Tao Jones
Peace is a fruit of the Spirit. In order to attain it, you must learn to trust him for all things. What is the way you find yourself connecting with God? https://irp-cdn.multiscreensite.com/2988a589/files/uploaded/sacred-pathways.pdf Learn more about that and pursue God with everything you have! As you do, learn to listen to the Spirit and then do whatever it is that he tells you. He will guide you into all Truth. And we know that our Lord is both the Truth and the Life! This is the only sure path to real life, to follow the Master wherever he leads. I am praying for you and cheering you on!
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Mr. McMarty
eliminate triggers, no sexy tv or videos, look away when you are tempted, but a parent code on your phone. and if your a Christian then help disciple others every day. Thats the plan
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miXhal
Plus you can indeed replace your PMO sessions with something more productive - prayer, reading the Bible, workout, learning, doing some homework, going for a walk outside, asking some friends out (but I know that this one may be very hard in this situation), reading books... There´s plenty of it, all way better than PMO.
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EquitableMove
^^ All God wants is for us to choose him over our desire. By doing so we become healed.
You can also, go for a drive or start journaling to escape urges.
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Aleza
I've already started my journal
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