Hello friends, Here is something I have been struggling with for years now. We all know this point of no return situation. We "decided" to f... it and indulge in fapping to porn. Oftentimes that turns into a long session of edging without ever orgasming. I do that for the "victory" of at least not loosing my essence. The problem with that however is that the urge never goes away and I keep repeating that for days and days. On the other hand "just coming" asap makes me feel very bad quickly but at least I have let go of steam and can reset the counter. I plan on never relapsing again but if it should happen now I think that I would "finish" it asap and therefore get out of the situation as soon as possible again. Thoughts?
I think that's the key phrase there. Honestly, I would take my mind off thinking about this otherwise you risk rationalising a relapse. Completely turn your mind to other things as soon as you can and you won't even be facing this scenario so won't have to deal with it. All the best!
If you're edging then you've pretty much already relapsed and might as well just see it through. If you dont then it just makes the compulsion worse so prolonging it serves no practical purpose.
The more you PM before you O, the worse. Because you WILL O sooner or (worst case) later. Not saying a quick PMO is okay either. Kattskägg
Here's how I've always felt about edging from my own experience: If I've been on a few days streak, when I first start edging it feel like pure heaven. I can't deny that because it really does. After a few minutes, the pleasure is still there, but I realize that I'm getting deeper and deeper into a hole. It's at this point that I think 'I should probably stop', but I never do. After about 10 minutes, I find something so amazing that I think 'just finish up', and I do so. As soon as I finish up, I wished I could have just walked away, even if I did edge, I always wish I'd had the power to walk away before O, and I never have. But, as you have said, if I did walk away, the urges would probably stay with me. I think if the urges are way too strong and you really, really can't fight anymore, then a very quick fap without porn or fantasy is much, much better than edging or PMO. Or, better still, just don't relapse in the first place!
edging causes damage to the brain (I'm living proof!). That constant, prolonged rush of pleasure and flood of dopamine in the brain is seriously unnatural. You're brain receptors become overworked and overtime, 'fry'.
Edging is not relapsing. It is really bad for because you make yourself 90% closer to orgasm. The real dangers of edging are keeping the same neuron dopamine craving patterns alive. Relapse = orgasm and ejucaltion.
It's better to put the porn down, realise that by edging you are flooding your brain with dopamine and reinforcing neural pathways that equate hypersexualised images of women as "real", and realise that by finishing up you are sending your brain into reward mode for all that edging you've been doing. Seriously, you need to talk to yourself if you get in this situation and cut off the dopamine, distract yourself with something else. It's like an alcoholic asking: if I take a few sips of whiskey, is it better to take my time and keep sipping for the next few days, or just neck the whole bottle and wake up in ER. The answer is to stop sipping.
you guys always talk about edging is a relapse but I never seen anyone mentioning the real danger of edging. When you edge and you don't come it's called retrograding Google it and you will see it fucked up you fertility.
I know it feels fucking great touching yourself after a long time of not doing it. Especially watching porn, that rush is insane. Just remember that it wont get as intense the next time cause you will get used to it. And the risk for binging is high. I edged today, just lightly stroked the shaft, like the touch of a feather, so sensitive and could only do it for half a minute until I almost came. Won't reset my counter but I'm really worried I might fall back soon. Kattskägg
Yes, that is exactly what I meant. Once you start edging it stays for days. I recommend you to cold shower now and totally snap out of it. If you cant do that then face the music, finish it, and reset the counter.
[ Warning Possible Trigger] Spoiler I think after a time it blocks up your tubes. After a prolonged edging when I ejaculate barely anything comes out and I can just go again, etc. From looking this up it appears the semen goes into the bladder and gets pissed out rather than ejaculated at orgasm https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Retrograde_ejaculation I do not think it is healthy at all. Obviously, it's not healthy psychologically, but I think it can harm you physically as well.
Why I edged? Or didn't reset my counter? Or feeling like I'm falling back? Feel free to read my journal, link in the signature. Kattskägg
Your question seems really pointless if youre serious about being free from porn. Edging is you masturbating and pretending you didn't. " I didn't jizz so technically I didnt masturbate so I'm not gonna reset my counter." If you edging youre just fooling yourself into thinking youre trying to quit porn when youre really just jerking off.
You just described all of my relapses it's like I'll just edge for 2 more mins then leave it but before you know it you're on a "awesome porno" and blowing your load then you feel like shit for not being able to stop.
"Men will continue to have impure and poisoned blood, so long as they propagate unclean thoughts. Out of a clean heart comes a clean life and a clean body. Out of a defiled mind proceeds a defiled life and a corrupt body. Thought is the fount of action, life, and manifestation; make the fountain pure, and all will be pure."
all of you writing "both is terrible, you are not serious , .. blabla" well, we ALL know that otherwise we wouldnt be on this board. But sometimes it is also good to have a surrender plan, right? Its very helpful to share opinions about that topic. I HOPE I will never relapse again but obviously it happens to all of us again and again.
I've edged because when in the low points the urges were so strong that I would stroke and cum 7 or more times a day and it hurt, edging was a way to prolong enjoyment without orgasams and I would edge for a few min then stop and repeat so when I was done it was a cum