Im around 45 days of my journey of NO PMO. I covered half of my journey. I had withdrawal symptoms but now they are not that much. Now, I can sleep well and not so much tired during day and now all i have is braig fog . My urge to fap is growing now, when i sit to study i want to fap. I dont want to fap out of desperation to get relief from my life, or to use it as a medium to hide from the reality of life or to use fap as an escape to reality. Now I feel my body needs to orgasm to feel good, its just to feel good its not a desperation fap. I dont understand as to why to punish yourself when you can fap out of just to feel good and not out of desperation . What should I do?
Because you do it once, you'll do it again, and again, and again. You've turned it into a coping mechanism. It's an unhealthy coping mechanism. Same reason why you shouldn't do heroin every time you're depressed. Just gotta keep chugging along!
It's your choice. Of course we all want to feel good. Unfortunately the joy out of masturbating usually is of more or less short time and the joy out of abstinence might be of much, much longer time. I rarely had a desperation fap. I know that periods of abstinence can lift me higher and higher - and that's the reason I registered here. It's all about joy and happiness - not punishment.
I know that we shouldn't use fapping as escape to life and I also know billions of people who say that fapping is fine if you do it occasionally. I also think that fapping will destroy the intimate connection with your partner, since only images and imagination is involved during masturbation but with a real partner it's totally different. But what's the point in holding yourself back when your body just wants to feel good , not out of desperation but just out of the desire to feel good. Aren't we supressing our body's thoughts and desires by this behaviour?
Yes and no. Me personally when I release and MO, I feel good doing it, but then after I feel sluggish and depressed. Since I've stopped I feel much happier and whatnot. Everyone has their own poison. I feel like PMO is no different than any other drug that's used. Here's another thing, when you can have sex, have sex. That's when the joy from O comes into play. However when you don't, then it's just not the same.
Surpressing our body's thoughts and desires? This is what I call mind. I prefer to follow my heart. If my heart is attracted by something really beautiful, all my attention will go in that direction and nothing has to be surpressed. I feel attracted by true love - not lust. "Fapping is fine if you do it occasionally". Occasionaly? 3 times a week? And what is if I don't do it for 3 weeks? For most people fapping is a habit - and in my opinion not a good one. There is much more to experience in this life.
Dude I know where you're coming from, but I can't handle this energy after flatline, Its like the libido is so high , I can't describe in words .
No i dont thats why i did no pmo for 2 months but what after 90 days, i dont understand if to fap once or twice a month or just leave fapping forever?
There is no future in fapping. You'll eventually want to do it again and again and then re-introduce brain fog and become a useless zombie. I don't know what you want for your future but I know what I want for mine, and there's no room for fapping that's for sure.
What if I just restrict to once or twice a month (at max), do you think that will be ok? Otherwise its just gona go as "wet dream" or in "urine" anyways, why not just fap once or twice a month and release it?
I don't know about you, but I know myself. Once I start doing that, I will eventually want to go back to wanking it every morning. So for me, I'd just rather have real sex and no longer fap.
Hey yeah about sex, after 90 days do you think I can have as much sex as I want? I mean with a hooker or a one night stand, There is no restriction on having sex or there is?
How would I know that I have rebooted or not? I mean, I feel completely fine after 60 days and my flatline / symptoms are also gone, so I guess I will ready to rock'n'roll after 90 days.